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God Knew We Would Need Strength to Endure and Made Us As Strong As We Are Because He Knew What It Would Take to Be a Mother

A Mother's JobWith all that is going on in this world today, I find that there are never too many times I can speak on the plight of mothers who are silently suffering when faced with adversity and situations not in their control when dealing with conflict between themselves and their children.

Not to add, this was not the first time I heard the story of a mother hurting but in the past weeks, I have seen and heard similar stories I tried to ignore reacting to. And even though at times I can sense people may tire of me speaking about it, I won’t apologize for it. I am a mother and because my heart goes out to them, I feel compelled to be one voice and say something in their defense.

Yesterday I heard yet another sad story of a mother who was distraught almost to the point of tears because of a situation that occurred between her and her children that seemed to have hurt her to the core of her heart. My heart broke. It immediately touched my heart. I sent up a prayer and tried not to think about it. I wrestled with it all day. I couldn’t get it out of mind nor could I sleep. Sat down, got my thoughts together and the words flowed effortlessly. This is what I managed to come up with.

It saddens me and breaks my heart when I hear stories of children who disrespect, verbally, mentally, physically, and emotionally abuse, curse and have no love or respect for their mothers. And believe it’s okay to do so because they feel they are entitled.

A mother’s job is the most underappreciated, underpaid, misunderstood profession. We are full-time employees with duties that last a lifetime. We don’t get a vacation. Motherhood doesn’t start and end the day we give birth. It is a lifetime commitment even when our children are no longer with us. No matter what our children may have done or how young or old they are, we will nurture, guide, advise, comfort, strengthen, forgive, and pray for them. We will put our lives on the line for them. It is our prayers and the prayers of those whose shoulders we stand on that came before us that keeps them. Cherish your Mother. Be grateful.

Yes, we make mistakes because we are human but we don’t use that as an excuse. Many of us do our best to admit our faults, forgive ourselves, and forgive the children who hurt us too. We will never stop loving them no matter what they may do to us. We will never stop being a mother no matter if or when they choose to stop being our children. Yes, they may not have asked to come here, but mothers didn’t ask to raise children who grow up disrespecting and abusing them. Don’t forget who is in charge; God. He will fight our battles.

There are two sides to every story. Choose one. But don’t let it be for your glory. Let God’s will, not your will be done. Mothers are one of God’s greatest gifts on this earth. Be careful how you treat her. You may think life is grand because she’s still here and you think there will always be time to talk to her. But one day God will want her back and she will no longer be available. You will never get the chance to say the things you didn’t say because she will no longer be available. You will never, ever get to see her again.

Let her smell her flowers now and not when it’s too late after she’s gone. Cherish your Mother while you can. She will not be here for long. When God comes for her, she’s not coming back to your home. She will be gone on to glory, residing in her new home.

God knew we would need strength to endure and made us as strong as we are because he knew what it would take to be a mother. God I thank you for blessing me to be a mother. I pray God heals and delivers every family that is going through something. I hope something changes one day soon with how children treat their mothers. I pray the sad, disheartening stories minimize or stop breaking my heart. My prayers are with each and every one of us.

I Love My Mother!

Be blessed! –JD

Ephesians 6:2, 3 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” (NIV)

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Mothers whoever you are and Children Too, This One is For You

Be careful how you treat your mother because there will come a day when she will not be on this side of heaven. But will be taken up to glory with God on the other side of heaven. You won’t be able to say “I love you” or call or text her or pass her in the wind. Once she’s gone, she’s gone. It will be the end. Cherish your mother. Tell her you love her if not always, every now and then. Appreciate her while she’s here. Because once the memory fades there is no fixing what you failed to appreciate while she was here.

I know this is a long post and I apologize for the lengthy thought, but this has been on my heart for a few days and I couldn’t help but share my thoughts.

My heart is heavy laden. I’m confused with children of today. God I know you sent mothers and fathers as gifts and deemed us salt of the earth. So are our children too. But I don’t understand why they do what they do. Sometimes they are in extreme opposition to your opinions and no matter what you do, will place blame on any or everything you do.

When they’re young, we look at them in admiration wishing they would hurry and walk, talk, and grow as we embrace them. Our hearts are overjoyed with this precious life you have given. We come to the conclusion there is nothing we wouldn’t do for them. We make sure there are clothes on their backs, shoes on their feet, a roof over their head, and food to eat. We will go to the ends of the earth and in most cases lay down our life for them. We are willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for them.

We watch them grow over the years as they become adults. We want nothing but the best for them and try our best not to place fault, when things don’t turn out as they want. We stay on our knees in prayer asking you cover them because we want to prepare them for what’s to come. Since we already know what life will throw at them; which will make it that much more difficult to overcome. We cast all our cares upon you concerning them. We know because of your love for each of us, you will protect, guide, and keep them.

We must be careful how we treat our mother. She is a gift from God. There is no need to put blame on everything she does. But choose not to place the same blame on others regardless of what he or she does. This includes the things you do. Because it feels like you are competing with your past and want to prove a point to them and you. Ask yourself, how can everything be wrong with her but there’s nothing wrong with me? When you’re on the outside looking in, you cannot grasp the wrong in things you are doing or take the time to see. But if it is pointed out to you, learn to accept constructive criticism when you’re told of the wrong things you do.

God help me understand, who are these children we profess to love but feel they can’t show the same appreciation or love towards us? Why does it have to be a constant battle between us? What happens when you live each day and pass each other in the wind? You only feel the need to talk or call when you need something. When she calls you don’t answer. Time passes by you text, and they still don’t answer. But can find time to talk to others whether it’s a sister, brother, or a friend. But why is it you choose not to answer the phone most of the time for her? This is confusing.

There are events you take part in that take precedence in your life. But can’t find a moment to call out of the blue and say “I love you” or make the sacrifice. You make it clear no calls can be received at work. But when something requires your attention during this time, you make the sacrifice to get calls at work to make sure everything is fine. Everything has to fit in your schedule according to your plans. But remember, your plans are not God’s plans. God knows and see all you do. And one day when it’s too late, you will reap what you sow all because of you.

Don’t get me wrong, granted there are some good times you share with your children and will cherish the memory. Not every child will do these things even though some will choose to live in misery. There are some children who will go through some things and you will do your best to be there for all of them. There may be one child who you know loves you unconditionally. Every time you speak or hear from them, they will tell you “Mom I love you.” It’s comforting. Mothers are a gift from God. They are treasured memories. I just have to wonder why it is so hard for children to embrace this.

Yes, I confess I have faults. There are some things I don’t always get right. But I can admit my faults and humbly submit to God’s will as I make the sacrifice to make things right. There are times I can be stubborn and will block my own blessing. Yet, when I get angry and choose to refuse help it’s because I feel uncomfortable when I may feel your reaction was unnecessary. When I feel someone is doing something not out of love but out of obligation. I make the decision to refuse help without hesitation. I know it is not the right thing to do. God, please be patient with me. I am working on this too.

In this life, we all have had jobs that either was hard or satisfying. At some point, we enjoyed what we were doing or gave up trying. And sometimes we are given the choice to walk away from it if it is not fulfilling. Or we will keep at it to find success because it is fulfilling. But I find one of the most astute occupations for anyone is being a parent. And I can attest to the fact that the role we are given can be the hardest job ever. It can be even more difficult when children grow up and seem to have various opinions that are in conflict with yours. You chalk it up as a lesson learned. And although some parents will choose to walk away, for others it is not a choice we make. We make the decision to stay.

We age and with aging many things will change. Our body tells us some things aren’t going to operate the same. As believers, we live and we learn. When we come to know God, as we grow and mature we take stride in adapting to changes from lessons we learn. Sometimes we learn hard lessons and decide we don’t want to ever do that again. And then there are times we keep doing the same things over and over again. We fail to learn and get stuck in our old ways. We have trouble adapting and accepting change.

If you think about it, children who grow up will endure the same process. But they may have even a much harder time accepting why we change in the process. Granted they too can get stuck in their ways, but why it is they think it’s acceptable, whether young or old, to do what you used to do and not what you say.

What happened to the old days when children used to say, “Yes ma’am, no sir, excuse me ma’am, how are you today?” What about the times when you made sure a moment didn’t go by without calling Mom or Dad just to say, “I love you” not just today but every day. What about a phone call here or there just to check up on their well-being? Nowadays its cell phones with the option to ignore calls, which I find meaningless. And you can sense when this happens when it goes to voicemail. Or text messages you receive only when they need a favor. Or they tell you, “You have a phone just as I do. Why do I always have to be the one to call you?’ Or “I’m busy, don’t call me at work but you can call me later.” Yet, if something arises at work that they need to get done, they will call you sooner rather than later.

Respect, where did it go? Sadly, it has gone out the window. The only thing we can do is accept what God presents to us in that circumstance and be thankful for the blessing. From the test, learn the lesson. My advice, take this lesson with you. And remember this in all you do. God requires you obey your parents while you are under their care, but it is your responsibility to honor your parents for life. “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother – which is the first commandment with a promise – that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (Eph 6:1-3). This is God’s promise.

Mothers whoever you are and children too, this one is for you. Remember, God loves each and every one of you.

Be blessed! -JD

Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that your may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV)

20:12 notes:  “This is the first commandment with a promise attached. What does it mean to “honor” parents? Partly, it means speaking well of them and politely to them. It also means acting in a way that shows them courtesy and respect (but not to obey them if this means disobedience to God). It means following their teaching and example of putting God first. Parents have a special place in God’s sight. Even those who find it difficult to get along with their parents are still commanded to honor them.”

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Keep the Faith!

It amazes me when I can see the joy and delight in the eyes of my children and expression of thankfulness for my prayers and faith in God when they can’t imagine how or why things turn out the way it does.

There are times I feel as though they are not listening or hear me when I profess my faith and speak about God and assure them he is in control. But this was evidence I am doing just what I’m supposed to no matter how they may respond.

As a parent, I believe we must never give up on our children no matter what they do or who they choose to become. It is because of our prayers and constant guidance that will eventually lead them in the direction they are to go with God at the helm. It may not happen instantaneously, but trust me it will happen at some point and time in their lives. Faith and prayer is the answer.

I received good news the other day and in it, I was told “It’s crazy how much Faith you have and each and every time you tell me about GOD gone see me through, he does. Your prayers help. You and GOD have my back.” A smile as wide as the ocean swept across my face as I immediately looked up to God and said, “Thank You Lord!” This made my night.

You see, I was overwhelmed after trying to figure out how to do something that literally took me all day and drained me physically. My mind was clouded with uncertainty. I was weary. I had overdone it in my efforts and was hurting all over the place. Feelings of defeat had overcome me and I wanted to quit being a voice because it was too much work and required more energy than I have. Out of my frustration, I began to think, this is too much for me to handle. Maybe I ought to give it up and throw in the towel.

Then something amazing happened. After reading what I thought was one of the most touching expressions of love, I cried tears of joy. I couldn’t help but shout out to God, “Thank you! You are so good to me, even when I fail to be as good to myself.” I was overjoyed. And all I could think of was how fortunate I am not only to be a mother that prays and believe in the power of God, but a person of unshakable, unmovable, unrelenting faith in God.

Not a moment goes by I don’t pray for my children, my mother, my father, my grandchildren, my family, and my friends and families across the nation. I believe prayer is essential for our existence. But I began to remember something my sister reminded me of. She said, “This is your ministry. And I believe it’s what God has called you to do. You seem to flourish in it in spite of challenges with your health. Your words encourage, inspire, and empower others. Keep doing what you do. Because I know from comments I receive from pastors and friends that you are blessing others. And it is blessing me too.”

This in turn led me to wonder, “Now how could I take matters into my own hands and stop what God clearly has ordained?” Confirming what it was God was saying to me. “You are more than a conqueror. There is still a work for you to do. I wouldn’t bring you this far just to leave you.” Your work here is not in vain. Yes, you may get tired, frustrated, and sometimes react out of your flesh. You may even get sad from time to time when it seems like others are not listening. It doesn’t matter. I am. I know, I see, and I hear everything you say and do. And no matter how you may feel in this moment, know that I care for you. It may get hard but I won’t give you more than you can bear. Trust me. Keep the faith. I always will be there.

When we are faced with extenuating circumstances that are beyond our control, no matter what we see or may be facing in our lives, we are to call things that are as though they were. Have faith.

Much like Abraham, our lives are marked by mistakes, sins, failures as well as wisdom and goodness, but we are to remain consistent in our trust in God. Although his faith wavered more than once, Abraham chose to believe in the unknown. In God he trusted. He believed God would do as he promised. And it was credited to him by God who declared him righteous. His faith was justified.

Follow Abraham’s example and this is what it will do. God will provide and give us strength to do the impossible in whatever he calls us to do. The obstacles we face will be the catalyst that strengthens our faith and will show in our actions. Abraham looked to God, obeyed Him, and waited for God to fulfill his word with the answer. We, too, are to do the same.

We may lose our way sometimes and become discouraged when things seem out of control but always look to God, for he is in control. This not only applies to you but to me too because had I continued to look at myself as an only resource, I would have given up in despair too. And I would have missed the opportunity to do. What God has predestined and called me to do. I looked to God believing he will see me through. All glory to God. There’s nothing he can’t do.

I am a strong woman of faith and in every instance of my life I constantly rely on God’s power to complete his work no matter the strife. I never rely on the word of man because I am a firm believer God has the final say. He is the master planner. God is the master of our fate. Things may go according to what we plan when we take steps to make it happen. But for reason we may never comprehend, God will allow things he preordained to happen. In the end, the final results will be as God planned. Trust God. On his word, stand.

Keep the faith!

Be blessed! -JD

Matthew 21:21-22 “Jesus answered and said unto them, Verily I say unto you, If you have faith, and doubt not, you shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree, but also if you shall say unto this mountain, Be removed, and be cast into the sea; it shall be done. 22 And all things, whatsoever you shall ask in prayer, believing, you shall receive.

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What Does It Mean To Be A Mother?

My mom asked me the other day, “What does it mean to be a mother?” I didn’t have a word to say. I couldn’t answer.

My response was “Dead silence on the other end of the telephone.” I couldn’t think of an answer because I was in a zone. I was tired and sleepy but after I hung up. I started thinking and here is what I came up with as an afterthought. But before I enlighten you, I must say this to you. The words I share below is what I’m reminded of what I learned from my mother. “What it means to be a mother.”

“Being a mother is “unspeakable” joy. It is a special gift and a blessing from God above. It is being chosen by God. His love is unconditional. It means knowing you are loved. You will fulfill the plan he designed for you. To raise the children he’s gifted to you. His grace and mercy will carry you through. It is God’s favor upon you.

Being a mother means having a humble spirit. Humble yourself and not get weary. For, if you faint not in due season you will reap a reward. It’s all God!

It means to show love and patience to your children. And teach them the goodness about God our Father. It is to prepare them for what’s to come. To teach them God’s Word that will help them overcome. It is to grow in grace. No matter the obstacles you may face. God will give you wisdom and knowledge to fulfill your role.  To be the best mother you can be as you travel the “motherhood” road.

Being a mother is to know when you tell your children this, they are assured of this: God is there for you. No matter what you may go through. Carry these words of wisdom with you. “The road may get rough and the going may get tough. And the hills may be hard to climb. But I’ve decided to make Jesus my choice. No greater love will I ever find.

Carry these words in your heart. And from it, never depart. Bless the Lord at all times. Let his praise continuously be in your mouth. His love is true love. He loves you without a doubt.”

After reflecting on this, I couldn’t help but think of my mother and the life she blessed me with. As I am led to say this:

Being a mother can mean many things. But the one thing that came to mind, where I didn’t think twice, one certain quality that exemplifies my mother…“Sacrifice.”

It is to make the sacrifice to raise our children that will go beyond what we do for ourselves. Knowing they are helpless and cannot care for themselves. In time we will wonder how could we ever depart from this being God sent as a blessing? When we are given an opportunity to learn and teach them godly lessons.

We are kind, loving, generous, and unselfish. We are selfless and full of compassion. Our love is unconditional. No strings attached. We are passionate and affectionate. We nurture. We do our best to be a role model. In order that our children may live lives free of worry and drama.

We love our children more than anything in life. No matter the cost or sacrifice. We will go to the ends of the earth and lay down our life for them. We will do the best we can to protect them. We will not allow anyone to bring harm to them. If someone tries to hurt our child, we will stop the enemy in his tracks. We will go out of our way to let them know we got their back. With God, we will make sure their needs are met. And will be confident he will handle it.

We will put our lives on hold so that we are available, no matter the reason. We will embrace the precious life God has given us, no matter the time or season. The love we have for our children will be etched in our hearts. They are one part; of two human beings. They will bring new life and new meaning. We can’t imagine life without them.

Being a mother means we will wear many hats. That will serve a different purpose in many aspects. We will guard our children’s feelings and teach them to be wise. We will guide their footsteps in every decision that may be unwise. We will instill the love of God in their hearts. That they may grow up and never depart. From his Word or what they have been taught.

Yes, we may have imperfections and have made some mistakes. We have and will fail you on occasion. But we want to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes. As we try our best to guide and lead you. So you may avoid what we’ve been through. We may set standards that may provoke you from time to time. With bitterness and anger, even rebellion when you fall out of line. But we do this only because we want what’s best for you. We love you.

It is our responsibility to help shape and mold you into honorable human beings God designed you to be. That you may grow up to have good character, sound moral judgment, respect, and dignity. And you may have strong values and integrity.

What does it mean to be a mother? Simply put. It is love, wisdom, and the sacrifice of our life, that our children may have a better life. God placed us in your life that we may be a blessing to lead and guide you. To the life God has designed for you. That will lead to your destiny. Thank God for the blessing.

Mothers are special. They are a treasured memory. Honor, respect, and cherish the memories. No matter what you’ve been through. God sent them as angels to guide and keep watch over you. Don’t wait for Mother’s Day to honor your mother. Let everyday be a day you tell them that you love them. Mothers are one of God’s greatest gifts. Love them with all your heart. Handle your Mother with tender loving care. Keep her close and near to your heart.

Be blessed! -JD

Proverbs 31:26 “When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.”

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Train Up A Child

While doing some reading a few days ago, I stumbled upon an interesting post the other day that I cannot seem to locate but wanted to say something about it because the subject matter stuck in my mind for a few days and I couldn’t shake it.

The post was in reference to a young lady who expressed her dislike with her mother when telling her to pray about something when faced with a life-changing decision or obstacles that she would encounter in daily life.

It was understood that her mom’s reason for doing this was because it was considered socially acceptable and a natural response. She expressed her frustration and feelings of being ignored when it comes to the fact that her mother is aware she clearly does not share the same beliefs but chooses to do this on a regular basis.

As I am reading this I couldn’t help but wonder had I been in this person’s shoes what would I have done? And while there are way too many variables to deduce why her mother may have done this with the exception of what she noted, I find given the fact had I been aware of my child’s non-belief, I simply would have said “I will be praying for you.”

On the other hand, had this been one of my children, my response would not have been questionable because I would have said the same thing as did her mother, “Pray about it” as well as “I will be praying for you.”

Not because I feel it is socially acceptable as this person believed the reason her mother does this. Nor would I have done this to impose my own personal beliefs upon them or disrespect theirs, but it would have been because I am comfortable and confident where my children are in their spirituality and beliefs. I know my audience. We share the same religious beliefs.

I grew up in a household with my sisters and brother where we were raised with the same faith and religious tradition of my mother and great-grandmother. We attended church and they instilled Christian values and the teachings of God and Jesus Christ. As I grew up, I chose to hold on to those beliefs and felt it was important to my development and future growth which helped mold and shape me into the person I am today.

When I become a mother, I made the decision in my household to instill and practice the same tradition, religion, and values within my children my mom and great-grandmother taught me. Throughout my children’s lives I would encourage them. I believed it was essential to set the foundation for their future development.

With the understanding that as my children grew up, it would ultimately be up to them to choose their own path but would hope that they continue on the path they were raised and continue with the tradition. Because it was clear I could not choose their faith for them, they would have to experience that on their own. And it would have to be based on their belief and not mine. And regardless, I would love them the same and support their decision.

As life would have it, when they became adults thankfully they held the same beliefs and followed the same practice. And as it stands today, we as a family attend the same church and share the same beliefs with the exception of one of my children who have a different preference.

As a parent I feel it is my obligation to guide and nurture my children in their spiritual development. No matter what situation they may find themselves in, I believe it is essential to instill spiritual guidance and wisdom and provide godly advice and encouragement that is in alignment with my beliefs. Of which I do when presented the opportunity. The greatest thing is they don’t become offended by it but they welcome it and oftentimes are in agreement with it. And will thank me for it. It warms my heart.

As Christians, we are given a charge to pray for others. When I express my intent to pray for my children, I don’t look for a response but  work to encourage and assure them God is in control. I strongly believe prayer is the answer and changes things. It is through my faith, dedication, and commitment to God to pray for others no matter the controversy or conflict it may bring. And is something I will continue to do for my children until I no longer have breath.

As I stated before, I am not one to impose my religious beliefs or preference on others because not everyone you encounter will believe in God or share the same faith. Yet it is not for us to judge. However, we are to remain loyal and true to our beliefs. And not compromise our faith to please, fit in, or be accepted by others.

When your offspring come to you and make you aware that their beliefs are different from yours, don’t become upset by it or disregard it. Have respect for it. Continue in your role as a parent to support, guide, lead, teach, encourage, and pray for them. Nurture them. Live by example. Practice what you preach. Pave the way that will lead them to a lasting, loving relationship with God.

“Train up a child. And although they may stray, they will not depart from it.They shall remember the way they were raised. With the hope they desire to live by what they were taught. To walk in righteousness, glorify and give honor to God.”

Be blessed! –JD

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

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Is Gun Control and Mental Illness Still Not An Issue?

rose I am not one to look at the news because it can be so disturbing. Yet at times I can’t help but stumble across it because it’s everywhere.

As I’m sitting in my room preparing my mind for my morning mediation and thinking about my future, I hear two stories about gun violence where an innocent man was killed and an innocent 6-year old child was taken hostage in Dale, Alabama. Then another story interrupts regular programming to report a shooting that occurred minutes ago where a gunman went into a building of various offices and commenced to shooting innocent people in Glendale, Arizona.

And to make matters worse, a 15 year old girl who performed at the President’s inauguration was a victim of homicide. Where again, a man opened fire in a park, allegedly for no apparent reason. With all that’s going on, it undoubtedly increases concern on the issue of gun control laws. And as it seems, there are too many flaws.

What is going on in this world today? Why are people killing people for no reason? What is it that this has become the most common occurrence of this season? Too many innocent children are dying. Too many innocent lives are being taken. When will the violence stop? When will we be safe? When will this be the case? Senseless murders cease and we are able to find peace.

I’ve tried my best to refrain from speaking out on gun control and mental health. But I strongly believe something needs to happen before unnecessary killings continue to happen.

Something has to be done. Or we will continue to see things like this occur. Gun control is necessary to get this matter under control. Tougher gun laws are unavoidable.

Please don’t take this in the wrong way. But this is something the world needs to also be concerned with today. Mental health is also a major issue society is in denial of. The fight needs to continue that they may get the help they deserve.

Granted, unanswered homicides occur every day. But to continue to see senseless crimes as is the case with children and unprotected victims like the children of Sandy Hook. Leads me to believe it’s more than what we are seeing.

My mental health background reminds me of the copy cat effect. Where we would often see mental health consumers commit crimes labeled “copy cat acts.” That was triggered by headline news of similar acts.

Do you notice, ever since the Sandy Hook tragedy, acts keep occurring similar to this? As well as include a suspect with a history of violence, instability, or mental illness. Do you think this is something we should continue to ignore? Or should we take the time to seriously explore? Why this is happening and what it will take? In order to change gun laws or mental health mandates.

Again, please don’t get me wrong. It doesn’t mean there’s a mental, unstable person behind every instance of gun violence. However, with many occurrences, some suspects have a history of mental illness and their thoughts cannot be silenced. There is a pattern that exists. In the number of senseless acts we’re seeing since the Sandy Hook tragic event.

Too many people are dying at the hands of alleged unstable people. Guns don’t control people. Nor do they kill people. People control guns and kill other people.

I’ve lived my entire life with the belief that God protects me. I’ve never found the need to obtain a gun of any kind to protect me. God is my shield. He’s my protector from the storm and rain. He has kept me all these years from the hands of man.

I’m not one to judge or comment on things such as this. But when will the violence end? Is gun control and mental illness still not an issue? As innocent victims are being killed or wounded and lives are being taken.

This is my plea. There’s too much going on in this world we continue to see. We need you Lord, oh ever so desperately. There are people taking the lives of innocent people because of their misery or instability.

God send your angels to keep us safe. Jesus, be a fence around this entire place. Protect the innocent from those walking into places shooting others for no reason. Regardless of the fact things happen in and out of season. Please give us Godly wisdom to understand the underlying issues so that resolve may be found. To lessen the impact of what we’re seeing now.

If you don’t know God now’s a good time to seek Him. Nothing in this life happens on a whim. We’re living in the last days where nothing’s beneath man. Accept Jesus. Believe. Confess and believe in the Son of God. Not the son of man.

Jesus is the answer for the world today. We are not promised tomorrow or today. We are here on borrowed time. For every problem in your life, seek God each and every time. There is no one else above him. He is Lord our God. Find him. Seek the Lord. Be blessed! -JD

Psalm 105:4 “Seek the Lord and His strength; Seek His face evermore!

Matthew 6:33 “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

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Please Excuse Me For Being A Parent

I apologize for the unintentional, possibly overbearing thoughts I share on the subject of mothers and children. But out of my compassion and concern for parents like myself, I can’t help but speak on the issue I find myself constantly encountering when I speak to other parents as well as what I see within the environment I exist. Please excuse me for being a parent.

It saddens me and shatters my heart to pieces when I hear about the treatment mothers experience from their children. Mothers, regardless of what they’ve done or didn’t do or who they are, they don’t deserve to be neglected, unaccepted, or disrespected. Please excuse me for being a parent.

I hear too many stories about how children choose to ignore, criticize and even disassociate themselves from their parents out of their stubbornness and foolish pride. Oftentimes I see children of today’s generation who lack respect, honor, and value for their parents. There is a great disregard for the role a mother plays in their lives as shown by the way they manipulate, humiliate, abuse, and take them for granted.

God used mothers as angels in the giving of life. We are to nurture, guide and protect our children. No matter what we may be faced with, and I know from experience we have our own struggles, we do our best to console the emotional state of mind our children will experience and not control the decisions they will make. It is never our intention to hurt or harm. So please excuse us for our prayers to keep you safe in God’s arms.

When children see us they think we are invincible. Yet they don’t realize our lives aren’t simple either. We carry heavy burdens when we observe our children’s lives not going the way we would hope. We ache inside our hearts when disappointment or a travesty occurs. Please excuse the attention we give that you feel you may not deserve.

We become consumed with a desire to help even if it’s only to share an encouraging word, constructive criticism or a thought that may bring healing. We try our best to do this in love. Sometimes we fail miserably but it’s never intentional. We make mistakes. We are human too. Please excuse us for caring about you.

We hurt, we heal. We get torn down but we stand the test of time. We go through a lot but we are survivors. As Christians, we are more than conquerors as the Bible tells us, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us” Romans 8:37. And it is because of him we live.

This in turn led me to think when someone asked me, “If you could turn back the hands of time would you do things differently?” I answered “Yes, there are some things I would change.” Then they said, “But how would you know you were doing it differently if you didn’t know what it was you were doing?” Me: “You’re absolutely correct” because life isn’t that simple.

We wouldn’t be able to do things differently if we relived our life because we wouldn’t know what to expect since we haven’t lived it yet. We still would be inexperienced with not a clue as to what life would entail. We would have to live and then learn from our experiences. And with the help of God, we will make it to the point we, as mothers, are now. Please excuse our diligence in seeking God because you may not know how.

Much like our children who are in the same place we once found ourselves. The only difference is we have lived the life they are now going through which in essence is a blessing. And they don’t even know it. Please excuse us for trying to be a blessing.

We are born, we live, and then we die. We learn to relinquish foolish pride as we go through life. As we learn to live. Then we learn to share what we’ve learned with our children who will now live the life we once lived. Excuse our innate nature to only want what’s best for you. Please excuse the unconditional love we have for you.

I hope that this will be my final thoughts on the subject but I know with life and children ever evolving, it probably won’t. But I hope that one day when children talk or react to their mothers, they are careful in what they do or say, because we are not promised the next hour or the next day. Please excuse our tenacity as God makes a way. As he listens to our prayers and you are given another chance that day.

We all are here on borrowed time. Learn to treat your parents with love. Learn to be kind. Thank God, for letting your mother stay. That they may guide you on the way, to wherever it is you may be going. As each day God gives you breath to see a new dawning.

Mothers are a treasured memory. Honor them today and every day. Remember if it weren’t for them you would not be a part of that memory if God hadn’t let you stay.

Please excuse us for being parents with a heart filled with love. Please excuse the manner in which we love… you. We are here to guide you. Don’t ever take for granted our kindness for weakness when we do… the very best we can to make life easier for you.

Be blessed! –JD

2 Corinthians 10:12-14 “For we are not bold to class or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves; but when they measure themselves by themselves, and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding. 13 But we will not boast beyond our measure, but within the measure of the sphere which God apportioned to us as a measure, to reach even as far as you. 14 For we are not overextending ourselves, as if we did not reach to you, for we were the first to come even as far as you in the gospel of Christ; 15 not boasting beyond our measure, that is, in other men’s labors, but with the hope that as your faith grows, we shall be, within our sphere, enlarged even more by you,

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What About The Children?

I heard someone say, “When children are young, they love us. When they become adults, they judge us.”

As parents, we make mistakes but we should not be held responsible for them the rest of our lives. I believe, no matter what, this is what children must adhere to.

Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

“This is the first commandment with a promised attached. To honor your parents is to speak well of them and politely to them. To act in a way that shows them courtesy and respect (but not to obey them if this means disobedience to God). Follow their teachings and example of putting God first. Parents have a special place in God’s sight. Even those who find it difficult to get along with their parents are still commanded to honor them” (LASB – notes Exodus 20:12).

And this is what we must remind ourselves of every day even when they grow old, become adults and move away; because one day we will be grandparents to, our children’s children we are to guide too.

Children are blessings.
They are precious gifts sent from God above.
Cherish their presence.
They are for us to nurture and love.

Remember it is up to you.
Make your child’s life worth living.
Lead by example in the things you do.

Lead them in the right path.
Influence them in the right ways.
And they will remember it all their days.

Teach your child to follow God’s commands and laws.
We must not withhold it but discipline them in love.

Even though it may seem unpleasant
Let the punishment fit the crime in their defense.
Administer it to commensurate with the offense.

They may stray from the Word as they get older.
But your guidance at some point will carry them over.
They will have no choice but to come back to it.
The very thing of God you imparted them with.

No matter how young or old, direct them to God.
Teach them about God and his truth.
Teach them how to obey and follow his rules.

God instructs us how to discipline.
The Bible says it is what we are required to do.
We are to impart God’s wisdom and truth.

We have a responsibility to one another to approach in love.
Children are to respect and love their parents in spite of.
They are to honor in spite of unfairness.
We are to care and love them in spite of disobedience.

Remember, children are God’s reward.
They are precious gifts sent from God above.
Savor every moment that you can.
Cherish and embrace them.
Put their lives in God’s hands.

My 6 year old grandson said “We all have guardian angels. They take care of us and they actually watch whatever we do. And they go to their guardian place to protect us because they are right behind us regardless whether we are good or bad. They are our guardian angels.” He is a wise young man. In the words of a proud grandmother, I say “Amen.”

Children are wise beings and are very sensitive to their surroundings. They can sense when something is amiss. They are sensitive to negative bias. And can be influenced by it. Foster an environment that influences positive, not negative, behavior. It can lay the foundation for positive or negative development in a child sooner or later.

Make it “About the Children.”

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”

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