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Until You Walk in My Shoes You Probably Can’t Fit, Don’t Judge Me. One Day You May Have To Walk in My Shoes and Travel the Same Journey

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People can be all for you and will walk with you until you break the heel of your shoes. They will scatter, nowhere to be found, only to abandon you. You will find yourself trying to repair what’s broken, alone. The journey may seem hard and the road you travel will be long.

You will lose some things along the way. People will gossip behind your back. You will find out who your real friends are and know for sure who don’t have your back. In the journey, one thing for sure you will come to understand, just how faithful God is. Until you walk in someone else shoes, you may never understand their journey. Never judge a person. One day you may have to walk in their shoes and travel that same journey.

As I sat in pure silence the other day, I began to think about many things but what disturbed me most is how I can minister to, support, and celebrate others yet cannot minister to myself when others fail me. And begin to doubt myself when they disappoint me. This is an area I deeply struggle with. I keep praying and asking God for help, seeking deliverance. Yet, no matter how hard I try to look away and ignore things I see around me that are not what I desire them to be, at times it can be difficult to appreciate the things I’ve accomplished without feeling guilty. I feel I’ve not done enough. I fail to celebrate my own accomplishments when I feel stuck.

I’ve accomplished many things in my life that I am proud of. Some goals I set for myself have been met years ago. Without God, it would not have been possible. However at times, I find it difficult to see what good it has done because I’m still waiting for something to happen. Just when I think I am on the right track, something happens and set me back. Only to have to start all over again. But with God, I still manage to make it look good on me from start to end.

I dress well. I look the part. I don’t look like what I’ve been through. No one knows what’s going on deep inside my heart. Yes, at times I find myself hurt, disappointed, discouraged, and confused. With God, I cannot lose. I refuse to let it hinder me. I keep trusting God in spite of adversity. I am believing he will see me through no matter what people may do to me.

When I allow negative thoughts to enter my mind, I become angry, confused as tears begin to fall from my eyes. Like water flowing from an imaginary faucet that don’t seem real. I tell myself, I may be distraught but I refuse to become desperate. Yet I begin to question myself asking God, “Am I doing something wrong? Is it something I’m failing to see?” I have my moments. I begin to doubt his ability. I ask him, “Why does it seem everyone around me is growing but me”? But in a split second I realize, it’s not them. It’s me. When I look over my life and see how far God has brought me, I have grown and still am growing.

I may miss the mark and not understand all that God does because it’s not for me to understand all he does. But what I do know, wherever God takes me, is the place I need to grow to do what he has called me to do. That I may bring forth what he has already planned for me. He has me right in the place he needs me to be.

Immediate circumstances will change what you believe, if you let it. No matter what you face, don’t let it. I cannot be paralyzed by fear. I’ve learned to accept failure as a blessing. No one can stop me from believing God’s plan for my life. God has birthed a vision in me and I have faith it will manifest in the natural.

It is not enough to be in the right place, you have to be there at the right time. God is always on time. When God wants to take you to a different level, let him. But he can’t do it when you continue to stay in your comfort level. God conceived a vision in you. He want to give birth to the vision he conceived in you. He wants to take you from Egypt to the “promised land”. Get up! Say to yourself, “Every day I will do something”. To propel me to reach my destiny. What God has for me is for me.

Understand this, whatever God does in your life is to get you in the right place at the right time for His Will to be done. Don’t let your circumstances cause you to miss your blessings. When you know God’s Word is true, in the face of anything, stand on it, believe in all things, and not fall for anything. Have an attitude of gratitude. Don’t curse your situation. Nobody can stop you from fulfilling God’s plan for your life. Trust Him. God gave YOU a vision.

Know that you’re not done until the vision is completed. God will complete it! Learn to accept failure as a blessing. And if that don’t work, look to the word of God. “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6)

We can never imagine all that God has in store for us. Move from complaining to worshiping and praising Him. “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him” – but God has revealed it to us by his spirit. (1 Cor 1:9-10) Don’t be afraid to endure hardship. Be hopeful. Have courage to press on. This world is not all there is. The best is yet to come.

God gave you a vision. Believe it or not, you’re pregnant with possibilities. There will be birthing pains before delivery. Reflect not on what you don’t have but what God has done for you. The righteous shall live by his faith. You will birth the vision. God will deliver in his timing!

No matter what we may go through or what people do to us, it is God who celebrates, elevates, and sustains us. Rejoice! God is our keeper.

Be blessed! –JD

Habakkuk 2:2 “And the Lord answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.”

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Please Stop the Gun Violence and the Killings – Ferguson and Others, We’re Praying for Healing

wpid-img_20140818_102821.jpgWords cannot explain what I am feeling today. I am going off subject today. As I sit trying to wrap my head around all that I’m seeing and hearing the news surrounding the fatal police shooting resulting in the death of 18-year old Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri my heart breaks. There are so many questions that seem to have gone unanswered and sadly, everyone is looking for answers.

My heart is heavy as I cannot possibly know what the parents of this 18-year old young man is going through. I’m praying for you. And what disturbs me most is how the media and those that need to be held accountable are using this as a way to dehumanize and destroy the character of the victim instead of taking responsibility for their actions. It should not even matter who you may have been only to characterize your life as a failure to justify injustice. The most important thing is he died unexpectedly at the hands of a person who was supposed to protect him.

While I cannot acknowledge every family that has been affected by incidents similar to what has happened to the Brown family because there are far too many to mention, please don’t take this personal but I couldn’t help but to mention this one.

There’s a family in Avondale, Arizona grieving the death of their daughter Michelle Cusseaux, a mentally-ill woman who was shot and killed by police last Thursday (http://www.azfamily.com/news/Family-celebrates-bday-of-mentally-ill-woman-shot-and-killed-by-police-271616891.html). She would have been 51 years old yesterday, but sadly she has gone on to glory. The family is demanding change because of the way the police handled it. After I read the story, I pray for change and stand in agreement with them. Something has to change. Gun violence is not the answer to America’s pain.

The thing that resonates most is what I keep hearing, “Calm down Black America” “Black-on-Black violence is nothing new” but I ask does that justify why innocent lives are being taken regardless who’s doing it? Injustice is injustice and needs to be addressed. Your background shouldn’t be as important to the injustice that has happened when your life is wrongfully taken.

Then there are those who are angry and speaking out in rage about police killings that are happening in their cities they feel no one is taking notice or they are being ignored. Yet they must understand the issue of race and violence has been an ongoing issue in America for years that has been subtly ignored, but by no means are they being ignored. Sadly, there are so many killings that even when we try to focus on one, we are wrongfully blamed for not focusing enough. America, please…It’s time to stop the violence! Please put away the guns and let’s sit down and have a civil discussion about it.

Too many people are hurting. “Who’s policing the police?” Because it seems like they are not policing themselves, shooting rubber bullets, tear gassing and shooting innocent victims. While I cannot speak for others or justify the lootings and inappropriate things happening in Ferguson most likely out of rage and anger, what is not fair is the citizens of this town are at risk and living in fear faced with danger. Seems like they are going through hell and are helpless. Let’s come together as a nation and pray for their safety. With the hope something changes for the better, so these people can get rest and be at peace with one another.

Every moment I think about it, I can’t help but to pray. Please stand in agreement with me and pray. I know that there are families hurting everywhere. I ask that we please stop the police killings and gun violence, any and everywhere. Violence will not solve anything. Violence upon violence will only exacerbate the condition. It will only make it worse. Peace is what we need that others may hear our voice.

It may seem like we have come a long way in the fight for justice, peace, equality, and in our efforts to end racism but sadly, we still have a long ways to go. It is far from over but I’m hopeful. Take these words from Martin Luther King, Jr. that I am sharing with you today. Pray for peace, justice, strength, and comfort in the wake of what we see happening not just today, but every day.

“I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality… I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word.” -Martin Luther King, Jr.

Be blessed! -JD

Romans 14:1919So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding. (ESV)

 

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Prayer Warriors Please Pray for the Nation. Angels Go To Work on Behalf of the Nation!

wpid-2014-08-11-22-41-07-1515099862.jpegThe nation is hurting. Many have lost a loved one. We may not have known them, but we’re praying for everyone. Prayer warriors, intercede, touch and agree in prayer for the nation. Please come together collectively as prayer intercessors and lift up the nation. There is so much going on in the world today. Every day we hear of a life lost be it by natural causes, unexpectedly, or violence where a life ended tragically.

When I heard the news of Robin Williams, I was devastated. I didn’t need to know what happened. I only needed to send prayers for his family. I immediately began celebrating his life. I prayed and asked God to keep watch over his family and friends who just lost a loved one. I asked God to send healing, comfort, strength, and peace. My final request: My condolences, thoughts and prayers are with the family of Robin Williams. America has lost an iconic figure. He will be missed. May he rest in peace.

To further exacerbate my feelings of devastation, while reading the things happening in Missouri all week, last night, and right now is breaking my heart. Racism is still alive and well, and sadly seems to have gotten out of hand with an increase in violence. Racial tension is causing division amongst the people in the city of Ferguson. We need to pray for the safety of the people in this community.

Color has no barrier, no body, or no face. We mustn’t let the color of our skin be the cause of division or hate. We should love one another as God loves us. The color of our skin shouldn’t matter because it doesn’t matter to God. We are all God’s children. He doesn’t discriminate. I pray we stop the violence and eliminate spewing hate. God please cover the community of Ferguson, Missouri and the nation with the blood of Jesus. Angels go to work! Send comfort, peace, a solution to the problem of racial tension and division. Father God let there be unity. Bless every family. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen. #MikeBrown

Mental illness has no color, gender, or face. It can affect any human being. We never know what a person is going through. Pray for everyone. We all have our own demons we’re fighting and are all going through something. Depression is a silent killer. So many are afraid to seek help because of the stigma and become isolated, only to die as a result. Sadly, Robin Williams was fighting against something we never knew about only to lose the fight to what ailed him inside. I pray he is at peace. Pray for his family.

The world can be so judgmental, cold, and calculating when hearing of news that alleges someone took their life. We must not judge but instead pray and celebrate their life. There’s a struggle inside each of us. God knows our struggles. He’s with us every step of the way. He will never leave us or forsake us. We may look well put together on the outside. We all have a story. No one knows what’s going on inside. What you see on the outside is God’s glory. Be watchful over one another. Pray for others. Lend a helping hand, not looking for anything in return. Do it in love. Do what pleases God.

While prayer is our ultimate source in things that concern us, mental illness is a disease that requires professional help. Pray and also seek help. We can never know what a person is going through. There’s someone fighting a battle harder than you. You never know. God does.  He’s there. Help someone in need. Spread love.

This is my prayer:

Father I come to you with a heavy heart, in prayer. There are people dying senseless, unexplained deaths in other parts of the world. The nation is in a crisis.  We need you now more than ever. Many are hurting. God help them. Some are troubled beyond repair and feel they’re alone with what they’re dealing with. Please watch over every family troubled by something that ails them. Cover those who feel they are not in control of what may be troubling them. Lord, I know you are a healer. I know when we are weak, your grace strengthens us. Where there is pain, Father God send healing. Be a present help. Where there’s doubt, send peace of mind, assurance. Where there is weakness, send strength and comfort. Father, we need your presence. The world is in disarray with many fighting against one another. God, I know many things happen for a reason and there is a time and season for everything. Whatever you’re doing in this season with all that’s going on, please don’t do it without us. We are covered by the blood. Angels go to work and intercede on behalf of the nation. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen and amen.

Be blessed! –JD

Romans 8:26-2726 Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27 And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.

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Thanksgiving Thankfulness!

Psalm 95In honor of Thanksgiving, many around the world will celebrate the day gathering with friends and family and share in the tradition of giving thanks, prayer and a specially prepared feast, and profess specific reasons for their thankfulness to God for the gifts He has given. A day of celebration where many will count the many blessings God has graciously bestowed. A time where family and friends will give thanks for all God has done.

The day filled with an attitude of gratitude, appreciation, and thankfulness for the greatest gift God has given; His Son Jesus Christ who paid the debt for our sins and gave us eternal life as a free gift.

Although many will have had painful experiences throughout the year and faced insurmountable challenges, the focus is not on what did not turn out right only to complain about it, but is on how good God has been in spite of it. Giving thanks for everything He has done, remembering every good thing comes from God. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows” (James 1:17).

We have so much to be thankful for. Glorify and magnify the Lord. Let not just today be a day we are grateful and give thanks to God for the gifts. Let every day be a day we enter his gates with praise and thankfulness. Be thankful in everything. And remember the true spirit of Thanksgiving Day; the greatest gift God has given to us. His Son Jesus Christ who sacrificed his life and died on the cross.

From my family to yours, have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving!

Be blessed! –JD

Psalm 95:1-6 “O come, let us sing unto the LORD: let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation. Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms.For the Lord is a great God, and a great King above all gods.In his hand are the deep places of the earth: the strength of the hills is his also.The sea is his, and he made it: and his hands formed the dry land.O come, let us worship and bow down: let us kneel before the Lord our maker.” (NIV)

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This is For You, A Mother Who Loves Unconditionally

“My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction. What you learn from them will crown you with grace and be a chain of honor around your neck.” (Proverbs 1:8-9 NLT)

It saddens me when I read, hear, or observe children young and old of today who think life is all about them when they choose to disrespect, disobey, and disregard the value of having their mother and father.

If you were to ask, not all, but maybe one person
Whose mother or father is no longer with them what life is like without them,
They would tell you in a way you would never understand
Because you will never know
until it becomes your way of life when God takes them.

My mother always says, “Give me my roses while I’m here,
Because I can’t smell them when I’m gone”
You may think all is well and take for granted she will always be here,
But wait until she’s gone.
You will have no choice but to live without her
And all will not be as well as you thought once she’s gone.

My mother may be miles away
And while I cannot say what life will be like
When she’s no longer here on earth
I wouldn’t trade my mother, disrespect her, and disregard her advice,
Or disobey her for anything in this world.

Please know God sees everything.
He’s always listening.
And he has no problem taking away
The best ones that they may live in peace with him.

My advice to those, whose mother is still with them,
Cherish her while she’s here with you.
Believe it or not, it is her prayers every day that carries you through.
Don’t wait til she’s gone to stand at her final day of rest and say,
“Mom if I shoulda, woulda, coulda I would take it all back.”
Once she’s gone, there’s no coming back.

Stop thinking you know everything in your refusal to listen,
When she only wants what’s best for you.
Stop disrespecting her to prove a point
When in the long run, in reality,
It will have a long lasting effect on you.

Stop competing with your mother who you think is like your friends.
Your mother is God’s gift sent to you on this side of heaven.
She is not like your friends.
She’s your confidant who you should be able to confide in.
She’s your God-gifted friend.

Don’t let your pride get in the way
and cause you to miss your blessing.
Because one day, when it’s too late
when she’s taken up on the other side of heaven.
You will never get the chance to say
“I’m sorry, I forgive you and I forgive me too.”
You’ll never get the chance to hug or kiss her
Or do the things, in your stubbornness, you refused to do.
Yet, when she’s gone, she still will watch over you.
No matter what you may do to her, she will never turn her back on you.

Just try getting shot, going to prison, lose a job or friend,
Or get physically hurt to the point of death.
Try breaking a leg, stumping a toe, or meet with life’s disappointments.
She will always have your back.
She’ll embrace you with loving arms and will watch your back.

Watch how she will be there for you.
She will never stop loving you
No matter what you do to her or what happens to you.

Mothers will love you beyond death, no matter what you do to us.
That my dear ones, is what I call a mother’s unconditional love.
Cherish and treasure her.

Signed, ME

This is for you, from a mother who loves unconditionally.

Be blessed! -JD

Proverbs 23:22-25 “Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.23 Buy truth, and do not sell it; buy wisdom, instruction, and understanding. 24 The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him.25 Let your father and mother be glad; let her who bore you rejoice.”

Proverbs 31:25-30 “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She looks well to the ways of her household

If you were to ask, not all, but maybe one person
Whose mother or father is no longer with them what life is like without them,
They would tell you in a way you would never understand
Because you will never know until it becomes your way of life when God takes them.

My mother always says, “Give me my roses while I’m here,
Because I can’t smell them when I’m gone”
You may think all is well and take for granted she will always be here,
But wait until she’s gone.
You will have no choice but to live without her
And all will not be as well as you thought once she’s gone.

My mother may be miles away from me.
And while I cannot say what life will be like
When she’s no longer here on earth
I wouldn’t trade my mother, disrespect her, and disregard her advice,
Or disobey her for anything in this world.

Please know God sees everything.
He’s always listening.
And he has no problem taking away
The best ones that they may live in peace with him

My advice to those, whose mother is still with them,
Cherish her while she’s here with you.
Believe it or not, it is her prayers every day that carries you through.
Don’t wait til she’s gone to stand at her final day of rest and say,
“Mom if I shoulda, woulda, coulda I would take it all back.”
Once she’s gone, there’s no coming back.

Stop thinking you know everything in your refusal to listen,
When she only wants what’s best for you.
Stop disrespecting her to prove a point
When in the long run, in reality,
It will have a long lasting effect on you.

Stop competing with your mother who you think is like your friends.
Your mother is God’s gift sent to you on this side of heaven.
She is not like your friends.
She’s your confidant who you should be able to confide in.
She’s your God-gifted friend.

Don’t let your pride get in the way and cause you to miss your blessing.
Because one day, when it’s too late when she’s taken up on the other side of heaven.
You will never get the chance to say “I’m sorry, I forgive you and I forgive me too.”
You’ll never get the chance to hug or kiss her
Or do the things, in your stubbornness, you refused to do.
Yet, when she’s gone, she will still watch over you.
No matter what you may do to her, she will never turn her back on you.

Just try getting shot, going to prison, lose a job or friend,
Or get physically hurt to the point of death.
Try breaking a leg, stumping a toe, or meet with life’s disappointments.
She will always have your back.
She’ll embrace you with loving arms and will watch your back.

Watch how she will be there for you.
She will never stop loving you
No matter what you do to her or what happens to you.

Mothers will love you beyond death, no matter what you do to us.
That my dear ones, is what I call a mother’s unconditional love.
Cherish and treasure her.
Signed, ME
This is for you, from a mother who loves unconditionally.

and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” 30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

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Mothers whoever you are and Children Too, This One is For You

Be careful how you treat your mother because there will come a day when she will not be on this side of heaven. But will be taken up to glory with God on the other side of heaven. You won’t be able to say “I love you” or call or text her or pass her in the wind. Once she’s gone, she’s gone. It will be the end. Cherish your mother. Tell her you love her if not always, every now and then. Appreciate her while she’s here. Because once the memory fades there is no fixing what you failed to appreciate while she was here.

I know this is a long post and I apologize for the lengthy thought, but this has been on my heart for a few days and I couldn’t help but share my thoughts.

My heart is heavy laden. I’m confused with children of today. God I know you sent mothers and fathers as gifts and deemed us salt of the earth. So are our children too. But I don’t understand why they do what they do. Sometimes they are in extreme opposition to your opinions and no matter what you do, will place blame on any or everything you do.

When they’re young, we look at them in admiration wishing they would hurry and walk, talk, and grow as we embrace them. Our hearts are overjoyed with this precious life you have given. We come to the conclusion there is nothing we wouldn’t do for them. We make sure there are clothes on their backs, shoes on their feet, a roof over their head, and food to eat. We will go to the ends of the earth and in most cases lay down our life for them. We are willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for them.

We watch them grow over the years as they become adults. We want nothing but the best for them and try our best not to place fault, when things don’t turn out as they want. We stay on our knees in prayer asking you cover them because we want to prepare them for what’s to come. Since we already know what life will throw at them; which will make it that much more difficult to overcome. We cast all our cares upon you concerning them. We know because of your love for each of us, you will protect, guide, and keep them.

We must be careful how we treat our mother. She is a gift from God. There is no need to put blame on everything she does. But choose not to place the same blame on others regardless of what he or she does. This includes the things you do. Because it feels like you are competing with your past and want to prove a point to them and you. Ask yourself, how can everything be wrong with her but there’s nothing wrong with me? When you’re on the outside looking in, you cannot grasp the wrong in things you are doing or take the time to see. But if it is pointed out to you, learn to accept constructive criticism when you’re told of the wrong things you do.

God help me understand, who are these children we profess to love but feel they can’t show the same appreciation or love towards us? Why does it have to be a constant battle between us? What happens when you live each day and pass each other in the wind? You only feel the need to talk or call when you need something. When she calls you don’t answer. Time passes by you text, and they still don’t answer. But can find time to talk to others whether it’s a sister, brother, or a friend. But why is it you choose not to answer the phone most of the time for her? This is confusing.

There are events you take part in that take precedence in your life. But can’t find a moment to call out of the blue and say “I love you” or make the sacrifice. You make it clear no calls can be received at work. But when something requires your attention during this time, you make the sacrifice to get calls at work to make sure everything is fine. Everything has to fit in your schedule according to your plans. But remember, your plans are not God’s plans. God knows and see all you do. And one day when it’s too late, you will reap what you sow all because of you.

Don’t get me wrong, granted there are some good times you share with your children and will cherish the memory. Not every child will do these things even though some will choose to live in misery. There are some children who will go through some things and you will do your best to be there for all of them. There may be one child who you know loves you unconditionally. Every time you speak or hear from them, they will tell you “Mom I love you.” It’s comforting. Mothers are a gift from God. They are treasured memories. I just have to wonder why it is so hard for children to embrace this.

Yes, I confess I have faults. There are some things I don’t always get right. But I can admit my faults and humbly submit to God’s will as I make the sacrifice to make things right. There are times I can be stubborn and will block my own blessing. Yet, when I get angry and choose to refuse help it’s because I feel uncomfortable when I may feel your reaction was unnecessary. When I feel someone is doing something not out of love but out of obligation. I make the decision to refuse help without hesitation. I know it is not the right thing to do. God, please be patient with me. I am working on this too.

In this life, we all have had jobs that either was hard or satisfying. At some point, we enjoyed what we were doing or gave up trying. And sometimes we are given the choice to walk away from it if it is not fulfilling. Or we will keep at it to find success because it is fulfilling. But I find one of the most astute occupations for anyone is being a parent. And I can attest to the fact that the role we are given can be the hardest job ever. It can be even more difficult when children grow up and seem to have various opinions that are in conflict with yours. You chalk it up as a lesson learned. And although some parents will choose to walk away, for others it is not a choice we make. We make the decision to stay.

We age and with aging many things will change. Our body tells us some things aren’t going to operate the same. As believers, we live and we learn. When we come to know God, as we grow and mature we take stride in adapting to changes from lessons we learn. Sometimes we learn hard lessons and decide we don’t want to ever do that again. And then there are times we keep doing the same things over and over again. We fail to learn and get stuck in our old ways. We have trouble adapting and accepting change.

If you think about it, children who grow up will endure the same process. But they may have even a much harder time accepting why we change in the process. Granted they too can get stuck in their ways, but why it is they think it’s acceptable, whether young or old, to do what you used to do and not what you say.

What happened to the old days when children used to say, “Yes ma’am, no sir, excuse me ma’am, how are you today?” What about the times when you made sure a moment didn’t go by without calling Mom or Dad just to say, “I love you” not just today but every day. What about a phone call here or there just to check up on their well-being? Nowadays its cell phones with the option to ignore calls, which I find meaningless. And you can sense when this happens when it goes to voicemail. Or text messages you receive only when they need a favor. Or they tell you, “You have a phone just as I do. Why do I always have to be the one to call you?’ Or “I’m busy, don’t call me at work but you can call me later.” Yet, if something arises at work that they need to get done, they will call you sooner rather than later.

Respect, where did it go? Sadly, it has gone out the window. The only thing we can do is accept what God presents to us in that circumstance and be thankful for the blessing. From the test, learn the lesson. My advice, take this lesson with you. And remember this in all you do. God requires you obey your parents while you are under their care, but it is your responsibility to honor your parents for life. “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother – which is the first commandment with a promise – that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (Eph 6:1-3). This is God’s promise.

Mothers whoever you are and children too, this one is for you. Remember, God loves each and every one of you.

Be blessed! -JD

Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that your may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV)

20:12 notes:  “This is the first commandment with a promise attached. What does it mean to “honor” parents? Partly, it means speaking well of them and politely to them. It also means acting in a way that shows them courtesy and respect (but not to obey them if this means disobedience to God). It means following their teaching and example of putting God first. Parents have a special place in God’s sight. Even those who find it difficult to get along with their parents are still commanded to honor them.”

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Happy Father’s Day!

A father’s love is different from a mother.
No matter the stigma surrounding fathers, we can never compare them to our mother.
They deserve love and appreciation too.
Fathers are the part of the foundation that contributed to our development in life too.

Fathers can be superheroes to some.
Some may have been strict disciplinarians that taught you how to overcome.
Be thankful for what they may have taught you.
To protect you and not let others take advantage of you.
You will learn to appreciate it when you have children of your own.
It will teach you how to discipline them that they may grow up to be strong.

You may have grown up in the household of a single mother.
Still we must acknowledge the contribution of a father.
We cannot hold resentment or regret.
Of fathers who have been absent in our lives or who have not been present.

We must forgive and reconcile our hearts to God.
And love them as God loves us. God is love.
Fathers are God’s gift to the earth. Value a father’s worth.
Choose not to hold on to bitterness or strife.
Cherish your being here because of your parent’s sacrifice.
One made by your father and mother, with God’s help, who gave you life.

If you have been raised by a single mother, today give recognition where it is deserved in honor to all fathers. No matter where they are or haven’t been as of today. Acknowledge your father or children’s father even if they have been absent in the role they play. Be it near or far, celebrate their life today. Honor the presence and memory of ones who are no longer here. Celebrate them in spirit and keep them close to your heart, near and dear.

To Fathers all across the world today, I say

Happy Father’s Day!

Be blessed! -JD

Psalm 103:13 “As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;” (NIV)

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To My Father on Father’s Day

Dad, I called you this morning.
I thought of you today.
I think of you often even though you are far away.
As I do every day, not just on Father’s Day.
Every day I wonder how you’re doing.
I pray for you every day.

We may be miles apart.
I may not see you much.
But I know I can depend on you when life gets tough.
I love you. Nothing can ever take your place.
In my heart you always will have a special place.

I may have been raised by my mother as a single parent years down the line.
But nothing will ever replace the love I have for you.
When I called you were there, right on time.
You’ve been there for me through the good and bad.
You taught me things I could not have learned from my mother but only from my Dad.

I remember when I graduated from college twice you weren’t one to fly.
But you were the first one to walk off the plane full of joy and pride.
At my graduation words could not express how proud you were of me.
As you stood in the aisle, with a smile on your face, and blocked the view
Of others who couldn’t see.

You are my role model.
You taught me how to be strong.
You taught me the importance of education.
And assured me I didn’t have to fit in to belong.

You always told me to keep my “eyes on the prize”
To make decisions not based on ignorance, but to be strong and wise
When I found trouble lurking, your words motivated me.
You are intelligent.
You were driven and a hard-worker.
You inspired me.

You taught me the value of life.
You instilled encouragement and inspiration.
You cemented in me the value of obedience and dedication.
You were one-half of another person God sent, my mother, who gave me life.
I thank you both in admiration for your sacrifice.

You told me to be the best I could be.
In essence, I am a replica of you, a “mini-me.”
I’m thankful you taught me how to appreciate who I am and be me.
I’m fearless, confident, smart, and intelligent.
These are some of the things I have you to thank for it.

You’re my …..             Friend, a father, a foe who set the foundation for many things
You’re       …..              Audacious, not afraid of anything
I hold on to  ….           Treasured memories that stood the test of time
My   ………….               Heart will always belong to you until the end of time
I appreciate ….           Everything you do
I honor this day in… Remembrance of you

Happy Father’s Day Dad! I love you.

Signed,

Your daughter

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Listen To The Cry of A Silent Victim

I’m going off subject again today.
My mind’s scattered. Thoughts are all over the place.
I woke to some disturbing news the other day
And have not been able to sleep or shake it all week.
I tried to put it in the back of my mind, but something is not letting me.

It keeps surfacing in my thoughts so I must release it to clear my head.
Things like this cannot be left unsaid.

My heart is heavy laden.
An innocent teenager took his life the other day.
He sent a message on a well-known social media platform
Earlier that morning, that same day
No one paid attention.
All I could do was pray.

He posted a goodbye in the wee hours of the morning.
So it definitely was not a time during heavy traffic where it could not be noticed.
Sadly, there were many clicks on “likes” by his friends.
I’m confused. Why didn’t anyone see the warning signs then?

He seemed uneasy and restless. He blamed himself for the mess.
He apologized before whatever was planned by him to happen
Clearly during his time of distress.
He seemed unhappy, as tears welled in my eyes.
Then he ended the post and said goodbye.

My heart sank. Tears of sorrow filled my face as I cried.
It took all the strength I had to accept what I knew already happened. He died.
I know he either had parents or someone who cared about him
That could have been notified.
This child was clearly crying out for help before he took his life and died.

Social media has a massive process of notification for everything:
Mentions, promotional ads, retweets, even notice of ones who are trending.
Even more disturbing is how easy it is
For officials to track and catch potential culprits in a place like this.

But when it comes to things like this, sadly there’s no app for it.
Why isn’t there an alert to track key words of potential suicide victims?
Who may connect to lines to aid in suicide prevention?

My prayers are with this young man’s family.
My heart aches and is torn in pieces.
It hurts tremendously.
Words cannot express the sadness or pain I feel.
I pray for peace, comfort, strength; that his family may be healed.

While I cannot blame social media for the events that have occurred,
I can only hope that in the same way we use social media to spread the word.
Not only of events that matter most to us,
But place a greater significance on things such as this that should disturb us.

Not that we may find recognition or potential success.
But because it is imperative we find a way to take notice of things such as this.
In the hopes we may help save a life.
Assured it is not remiss but will help because of our sacrifice.

This child’s life may have been saved
Had someone taken responsibly and taken the time to carefully read his words
And took heed to his warning.
Instead of ignoring and acknowledging his effort by clicking “likes,”
When he silently cried out for help before ending his life.

Suicide is a serious issue oftentimes I feel we fail at recognizing; miserably.
We don’t take it seriously.
We ignore the warning signs after it’s too late.
If only someone will only listen to the cry of a silent victim before it is too late.

Let this be an example of what we can do
As a society to rightfully help potential suicide victims make it through,
In a platform that gets the most attention.
Use social media to your advantage, to get the right attention.

If we take heed to the warning signs when it comes to saving a life.
We can be the person that may help save a life.
Know that a cry out for help clearly calls for our attention.
Let social media not be just to gain potential followers,
But alert anyone that will listen.
Listen to the cry of a silent victim.

Thank you for listening. -JD

For more information on how you can help someone who may be suicidal on social media, please visit the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/Online.

God, I know you’re listening.
Please hear my prayers as I pray.
For the family and friends of those
that lost a loved one today.

Comfort them in their time of need.
Restore whatever strength they may have lost.
Help the family find peace.
Give them hope for tomorrow.
Assure them all is not lost.

God, I know the pain may be unbearable.
And it may be hard for them to overcome.
But I know you can and will help them get through this.
No matter how hard it may be for them. Let your will be done.

To be absent with the body is to be present with the Father.
Though, they will be sorely missed.
Bring the family to a place where they can receive joy in knowing this.
And understand they are in a better place and is no longer in pain.
They don’t have to cry another tear or feel sorrow ever again.

God may the family find rest in your arms.
Hold them safely in your hands.
Handle them with care.
Comfort them as only I know you can.
In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”

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Rejoice In Disappointments

Cape Disappointment State Park

Cape Disappointment State Park (Photo credit: dalem)

Every day we are faced with life’s disappointments. We can become disappointed by a number of things which can be hard to accept.

Sometimes jobs can be hard to find but disappointing when easy to lose. Relationships can be developed over time but disappointing when easily lost in a matter of seconds, days, weeks, months, less than years oftentimes over trivial matters.

True friendships can be hard to find but acquaintances can be easy to discover when in search of a life we choose to live in secret and undercover. One that may not be centered on Christ but exist clearly out of our need for a social life.

The unexpected loss of a loved one can bring disappointment as well as hurt beyond measure but hard to recover because a heart cannot be easily mended. We can encounter individuals who lack compassion, sensitivity, respect, or are just plain mean with hardened hearts but will easily offend us.

Disappointment can come in various forms, but basically it simply means we are disappointed by the world which oftentimes will bring a lack of trust, destruction, and warped perception.

But the one thing I find most disturbing is disappointment with self when we already know what is to be expected when we encounter certain situations in life, especially ones that are not in our control. And what can be even more frustrating is how we handle it. Because many times we want what we want, when we want it, how we want it. And will use any means necessary to see that we get it. Overlooking the fact that some things will not happen the way we want but instead will happen exactly the way God plans it.

As believers, we are given the astute advantage of knowing how to deal with disappointments in life because we have God’s Word as a resource that can bring clarity and wisdom. It will allow us to be conscious of the decisions we make when faced with it. We must be open to change. Face reality and know that disappointment cannot be avoided. However, we are to expect the unexpected but never forget God in the process.

When faced with problems that are beyond our control, we are to persevere and seek God. It is at this time we will seek to do and not seek to ask why. It is our opportunity to grow and mature in our relationship with God when we profess our troubles to him. And ask what is it he wants us to do with this and not what we are led to believe we are to do with it.

It is through our experiences that will help us learn to trust God. It’s a component of how we grow spiritually and mature in character. It helps us to grow in faith. Faith requires us to trust that God has a better plan even when we cannot see it or understand it. We learn to depend on God and not ourselves.

Disappointments are part of the norm. It’s to be expected. But even more so, sometimes God uses circumstances and allows disappointments to strengthen us and compel us to fully trust him. That we may avoid believing we can live life apart from Him. It is our opportunity to move closer to Him even in the midst of our deepest disappointments. Because God does not desire that we look to man or our circumstances but to Him.

If God brings you to it, he will bring you through it. He will show you what he needs you to do and will equip you to do it. Respond to life’s circumstances positively rather than negatively. Trust that God’s provision will give you the power to sustain and overcome no matter the result.  Choose to walk not by the flesh but in the way God has made available through the Holy Spirit.

God promises that nothing, I mean nothing will happen that he does not have control. He will work it out for our good and His glory. We may disappoint God many times, but he never gives up on us. Don’t give up on him. By his grace, move forward.

Rejoice in disappointments.

Be blessed! –JD

Habakkuk 3:17-19 NKJV “Though the fig tree may not blossom, Nor fruit be on the vines; Though the labor of the olive may fail, And the fields yield no food; Though the flock may be cut off from the fold, And there be no herd in the stalls— 18 Yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will joy in the God of my salvation 19 The Lord God is my strength; He will make my feet like deer’s feet, And He will make me walk on my high hills…”

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Happy Mother’s Day!

A mother’s love is undeniable.
She’s loving, kind,
She empowers.

She’s unique.
She’s capable.
She can do many things.
She can handle anything.

She’s a best friend,
Confidant, healer, lover,
All wrapped into one.
Her work is never done.

She is a…..Motivator
Her love….Overcomes
She is……..Triumphant
She is……..Humble
Beyond…..Exceptional
She is……..Resilient

She is one in a million.

Mothers are a blessing. They are God’s angels heaven sent. Love, honor, cherish them. Celebrate their presence be it in spirit, near, or far away. Honor your Mother on today.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Be blessed! -JD

Psalm 139:13-14 NIV “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,..”

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What Does It Mean To Be A Mother?

My mom asked me the other day, “What does it mean to be a mother?” I didn’t have a word to say. I couldn’t answer.

My response was “Dead silence on the other end of the telephone.” I couldn’t think of an answer because I was in a zone. I was tired and sleepy but after I hung up. I started thinking and here is what I came up with as an afterthought. But before I enlighten you, I must say this to you. The words I share below is what I’m reminded of what I learned from my mother. “What it means to be a mother.”

“Being a mother is “unspeakable” joy. It is a special gift and a blessing from God above. It is being chosen by God. His love is unconditional. It means knowing you are loved. You will fulfill the plan he designed for you. To raise the children he’s gifted to you. His grace and mercy will carry you through. It is God’s favor upon you.

Being a mother means having a humble spirit. Humble yourself and not get weary. For, if you faint not in due season you will reap a reward. It’s all God!

It means to show love and patience to your children. And teach them the goodness about God our Father. It is to prepare them for what’s to come. To teach them God’s Word that will help them overcome. It is to grow in grace. No matter the obstacles you may face. God will give you wisdom and knowledge to fulfill your role.  To be the best mother you can be as you travel the “motherhood” road.

Being a mother is to know when you tell your children this, they are assured of this: God is there for you. No matter what you may go through. Carry these words of wisdom with you. “The road may get rough and the going may get tough. And the hills may be hard to climb. But I’ve decided to make Jesus my choice. No greater love will I ever find.

Carry these words in your heart. And from it, never depart. Bless the Lord at all times. Let his praise continuously be in your mouth. His love is true love. He loves you without a doubt.”

After reflecting on this, I couldn’t help but think of my mother and the life she blessed me with. As I am led to say this:

Being a mother can mean many things. But the one thing that came to mind, where I didn’t think twice, one certain quality that exemplifies my mother…“Sacrifice.”

It is to make the sacrifice to raise our children that will go beyond what we do for ourselves. Knowing they are helpless and cannot care for themselves. In time we will wonder how could we ever depart from this being God sent as a blessing? When we are given an opportunity to learn and teach them godly lessons.

We are kind, loving, generous, and unselfish. We are selfless and full of compassion. Our love is unconditional. No strings attached. We are passionate and affectionate. We nurture. We do our best to be a role model. In order that our children may live lives free of worry and drama.

We love our children more than anything in life. No matter the cost or sacrifice. We will go to the ends of the earth and lay down our life for them. We will do the best we can to protect them. We will not allow anyone to bring harm to them. If someone tries to hurt our child, we will stop the enemy in his tracks. We will go out of our way to let them know we got their back. With God, we will make sure their needs are met. And will be confident he will handle it.

We will put our lives on hold so that we are available, no matter the reason. We will embrace the precious life God has given us, no matter the time or season. The love we have for our children will be etched in our hearts. They are one part; of two human beings. They will bring new life and new meaning. We can’t imagine life without them.

Being a mother means we will wear many hats. That will serve a different purpose in many aspects. We will guard our children’s feelings and teach them to be wise. We will guide their footsteps in every decision that may be unwise. We will instill the love of God in their hearts. That they may grow up and never depart. From his Word or what they have been taught.

Yes, we may have imperfections and have made some mistakes. We have and will fail you on occasion. But we want to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes. As we try our best to guide and lead you. So you may avoid what we’ve been through. We may set standards that may provoke you from time to time. With bitterness and anger, even rebellion when you fall out of line. But we do this only because we want what’s best for you. We love you.

It is our responsibility to help shape and mold you into honorable human beings God designed you to be. That you may grow up to have good character, sound moral judgment, respect, and dignity. And you may have strong values and integrity.

What does it mean to be a mother? Simply put. It is love, wisdom, and the sacrifice of our life, that our children may have a better life. God placed us in your life that we may be a blessing to lead and guide you. To the life God has designed for you. That will lead to your destiny. Thank God for the blessing.

Mothers are special. They are a treasured memory. Honor, respect, and cherish the memories. No matter what you’ve been through. God sent them as angels to guide and keep watch over you. Don’t wait for Mother’s Day to honor your mother. Let everyday be a day you tell them that you love them. Mothers are one of God’s greatest gifts. Love them with all your heart. Handle your Mother with tender loving care. Keep her close and near to your heart.

Be blessed! -JD

Proverbs 31:26 “When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.”

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