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How Many Friends Do You Really Have Or Are You Really Friends With? Real Ones? Or Superficial Acquaintances? Are You Really a Friend of Jesus?

Superficial Acquaintances Joaynn.pngSomething to think about:

Oftentimes we confuse true friendships based on the number of people we “know” or the ones who influence us the most, or even ones we have known for a lifetime and have been through the fire with. This by no means is an indication of who your true, real friends are. Check your circle.

Social media lets you “friend” just about anyone and everything you want. Choose your friends wisely. Be careful who you call a friend or who you really are friends with. Everybody is not your friend. Once upon a time you didn’t even know them.

Think about this, would Jesus call you a friend knowing the person you are? Do you love one another as He loves us? “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends…These things I command you, that you love one another” (John 15:12 – 13, 17 ESV).

Do you obey his commandments? “You are my friends if you do what I command you” (John 15:14 ESV). Do you understand the truths he has revealed to us from the Father? By the Holy Spirit in the word of God? “No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you” (John 15:15 ESV). Are you seeking to do these things when you call Jesus your friend?

Stop calling everybody your friend just because you know them. Many people you know are only acquaintances. It is better to have one friend who you call a true friend than to have many of superficial acquaintances. True friends stick by you in good times and bad. They will listen, care, and offer help when it is needed. They will not judge you or constantly remind you of who you used to be. They will celebrate who you are and love you unconditionally as you are. Jesus love us, no matter what we’ve done. Yes, Jesus loves us!

Would Jesus call you His friend? Yes he would, if you are loving others, if you are seeking to obey his command as he desires, and if you are developing an understanding of the truths revealed by the Holy Spirit in God’s Word. Ask yourself these questions, answer them and you will know if Jesus calls you His friend.

The Bible says “there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother,” not everybody on social media. Stop calling everybody your friend. Some are superficial acquaintances. “What a FRIEND we have in Jesus.” Know the difference.

Be blessed! – JD

James 2:23 “And the Scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness”—and he was called a friend of God” (ESV).


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God Knew We Would Need Strength to Endure and Made Us As Strong As We Are Because He Knew What It Would Take to Be a Mother

A Mother's JobWith all that is going on in this world today, I find that there are never too many times I can speak on the plight of mothers who are silently suffering when faced with adversity and situations not in their control when dealing with conflict between themselves and their children.

Not to add, this was not the first time I heard the story of a mother hurting but in the past weeks, I have seen and heard similar stories I tried to ignore reacting to. And even though at times I can sense people may tire of me speaking about it, I won’t apologize for it. I am a mother and because my heart goes out to them, I feel compelled to be one voice and say something in their defense.

Yesterday I heard yet another sad story of a mother who was distraught almost to the point of tears because of a situation that occurred between her and her children that seemed to have hurt her to the core of her heart. My heart broke. It immediately touched my heart. I sent up a prayer and tried not to think about it. I wrestled with it all day. I couldn’t get it out of mind nor could I sleep. Sat down, got my thoughts together and the words flowed effortlessly. This is what I managed to come up with.

It saddens me and breaks my heart when I hear stories of children who disrespect, verbally, mentally, physically, and emotionally abuse, curse and have no love or respect for their mothers. And believe it’s okay to do so because they feel they are entitled.

A mother’s job is the most underappreciated, underpaid, misunderstood profession. We are full-time employees with duties that last a lifetime. We don’t get a vacation. Motherhood doesn’t start and end the day we give birth. It is a lifetime commitment even when our children are no longer with us. No matter what our children may have done or how young or old they are, we will nurture, guide, advise, comfort, strengthen, forgive, and pray for them. We will put our lives on the line for them. It is our prayers and the prayers of those whose shoulders we stand on that came before us that keeps them. Cherish your Mother. Be grateful.

Yes, we make mistakes because we are human but we don’t use that as an excuse. Many of us do our best to admit our faults, forgive ourselves, and forgive the children who hurt us too. We will never stop loving them no matter what they may do to us. We will never stop being a mother no matter if or when they choose to stop being our children. Yes, they may not have asked to come here, but mothers didn’t ask to raise children who grow up disrespecting and abusing them. Don’t forget who is in charge; God. He will fight our battles.

There are two sides to every story. Choose one. But don’t let it be for your glory. Let God’s will, not your will be done. Mothers are one of God’s greatest gifts on this earth. Be careful how you treat her. You may think life is grand because she’s still here and you think there will always be time to talk to her. But one day God will want her back and she will no longer be available. You will never get the chance to say the things you didn’t say because she will no longer be available. You will never, ever get to see her again.

Let her smell her flowers now and not when it’s too late after she’s gone. Cherish your Mother while you can. She will not be here for long. When God comes for her, she’s not coming back to your home. She will be gone on to glory, residing in her new home.

God knew we would need strength to endure and made us as strong as we are because he knew what it would take to be a mother. God I thank you for blessing me to be a mother. I pray God heals and delivers every family that is going through something. I hope something changes one day soon with how children treat their mothers. I pray the sad, disheartening stories minimize or stop breaking my heart. My prayers are with each and every one of us.

I Love My Mother!

Be blessed! –JD

Ephesians 6:2, 3 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” (NIV)

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To My Father on Father’s Day

Dad, I called you this morning.
I thought of you today.
I think of you often even though you are far away.
As I do every day, not just on Father’s Day.
Every day I wonder how you’re doing.
I pray for you every day.

We may be miles apart.
I may not see you much.
But I know I can depend on you when life gets tough.
I love you. Nothing can ever take your place.
In my heart you always will have a special place.

I may have been raised by my mother as a single parent years down the line.
But nothing will ever replace the love I have for you.
When I called you were there, right on time.
You’ve been there for me through the good and bad.
You taught me things I could not have learned from my mother but only from my Dad.

I remember when I graduated from college twice you weren’t one to fly.
But you were the first one to walk off the plane full of joy and pride.
At my graduation words could not express how proud you were of me.
As you stood in the aisle, with a smile on your face, and blocked the view
Of others who couldn’t see.

You are my role model.
You taught me how to be strong.
You taught me the importance of education.
And assured me I didn’t have to fit in to belong.

You always told me to keep my “eyes on the prize”
To make decisions not based on ignorance, but to be strong and wise
When I found trouble lurking, your words motivated me.
You are intelligent.
You were driven and a hard-worker.
You inspired me.

You taught me the value of life.
You instilled encouragement and inspiration.
You cemented in me the value of obedience and dedication.
You were one-half of another person God sent, my mother, who gave me life.
I thank you both in admiration for your sacrifice.

You told me to be the best I could be.
In essence, I am a replica of you, a “mini-me.”
I’m thankful you taught me how to appreciate who I am and be me.
I’m fearless, confident, smart, and intelligent.
These are some of the things I have you to thank for it.

You’re my …..             Friend, a father, a foe who set the foundation for many things
You’re       …..              Audacious, not afraid of anything
I hold on to  ….           Treasured memories that stood the test of time
My   ………….               Heart will always belong to you until the end of time
I appreciate ….           Everything you do
I honor this day in… Remembrance of you

Happy Father’s Day Dad! I love you.


Your daughter


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