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Train Up A Child

While doing some reading a few days ago, I stumbled upon an interesting post the other day that I cannot seem to locate but wanted to say something about it because the subject matter stuck in my mind for a few days and I couldn’t shake it.

The post was in reference to a young lady who expressed her dislike with her mother when telling her to pray about something when faced with a life-changing decision or obstacles that she would encounter in daily life.

It was understood that her mom’s reason for doing this was because it was considered socially acceptable and a natural response. She expressed her frustration and feelings of being ignored when it comes to the fact that her mother is aware she clearly does not share the same beliefs but chooses to do this on a regular basis.

As I am reading this I couldn’t help but wonder had I been in this person’s shoes what would I have done? And while there are way too many variables to deduce why her mother may have done this with the exception of what she noted, I find given the fact had I been aware of my child’s non-belief, I simply would have said “I will be praying for you.”

On the other hand, had this been one of my children, my response would not have been questionable because I would have said the same thing as did her mother, “Pray about it” as well as “I will be praying for you.”

Not because I feel it is socially acceptable as this person believed the reason her mother does this. Nor would I have done this to impose my own personal beliefs upon them or disrespect theirs, but it would have been because I am comfortable and confident where my children are in their spirituality and beliefs. I know my audience. We share the same religious beliefs.

I grew up in a household with my sisters and brother where we were raised with the same faith and religious tradition of my mother and great-grandmother. We attended church and they instilled Christian values and the teachings of God and Jesus Christ. As I grew up, I chose to hold on to those beliefs and felt it was important to my development and future growth which helped mold and shape me into the person I am today.

When I become a mother, I made the decision in my household to instill and practice the same tradition, religion, and values within my children my mom and great-grandmother taught me. Throughout my children’s lives I would encourage them. I believed it was essential to set the foundation for their future development.

With the understanding that as my children grew up, it would ultimately be up to them to choose their own path but would hope that they continue on the path they were raised and continue with the tradition. Because it was clear I could not choose their faith for them, they would have to experience that on their own. And it would have to be based on their belief and not mine. And regardless, I would love them the same and support their decision.

As life would have it, when they became adults thankfully they held the same beliefs and followed the same practice. And as it stands today, we as a family attend the same church and share the same beliefs with the exception of one of my children who have a different preference.

As a parent I feel it is my obligation to guide and nurture my children in their spiritual development. No matter what situation they may find themselves in, I believe it is essential to instill spiritual guidance and wisdom and provide godly advice and encouragement that is in alignment with my beliefs. Of which I do when presented the opportunity. The greatest thing is they don’t become offended by it but they welcome it and oftentimes are in agreement with it. And will thank me for it. It warms my heart.

As Christians, we are given a charge to pray for others. When I express my intent to pray for my children, I don’t look for a response but  work to encourage and assure them God is in control. I strongly believe prayer is the answer and changes things. It is through my faith, dedication, and commitment to God to pray for others no matter the controversy or conflict it may bring. And is something I will continue to do for my children until I no longer have breath.

As I stated before, I am not one to impose my religious beliefs or preference on others because not everyone you encounter will believe in God or share the same faith. Yet it is not for us to judge. However, we are to remain loyal and true to our beliefs. And not compromise our faith to please, fit in, or be accepted by others.

When your offspring come to you and make you aware that their beliefs are different from yours, don’t become upset by it or disregard it. Have respect for it. Continue in your role as a parent to support, guide, lead, teach, encourage, and pray for them. Nurture them. Live by example. Practice what you preach. Pave the way that will lead them to a lasting, loving relationship with God.

“Train up a child. And although they may stray, they will not depart from it.They shall remember the way they were raised. With the hope they desire to live by what they were taught. To walk in righteousness, glorify and give honor to God.”

Be blessed! –JD

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

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Does Reverence Of God Require Us To Change?

I had a strange premonition the other day where I couldn’t get my mind off  the subject of change and reverence to God. I tried to push it to the back of my mind but something kept prompting me to address it. So today, I chose to briefly take a look at reverence and change as I share how it came about in my life and what I believe God expects us to do with it.

When I was younger, I feared change. I didn’t like the idea of having to transition to new things in my life. I didn’t like having to make new friends or go to a new school or live in a new place or be in new surroundings. I was comfortable and wanted things to remain the same…forever.

But as with anything in life, change is a part of it. In order to transition from one setting to another, one must be willing and open to change their surroundings in order to sustain. It is required. As such, I couldn’t help but make the connection to change as it relates to spiritual growth and determined through spiritual development, reverence to God was also a part of change that was required.

While I had been raised in the church by my Mother and Great-grandmother basically all my life, as a young child I reverenced God. Although at the time I really did not have a clear understanding of what it meant, all I know is I feared him in my heart. My desire was to do what was right to please him.

When I became an adult and began to closely follow God I realized change was required in order to grow and mature. Not that my circumstances may change, but God wanted to change me within my circumstances. This would allow me to become a better person and work to develop the same characteristics as God. Without God serving as the blueprint to shape my life, how could I fully follow the foundation that was set before me?

At a young age I never departed from the love, respect, and awe I have for God. And even at the age I find myself now, the love I have for God is astounding. It is beyond words.

Granted there are times when I struggle with sustaining, the overall goal is to follow God wholeheartedly. To love him with all my heart and with all my soul and with all my mind, with a desire to live in obedience to his commandments.

It took some time to get to where I am now, but no matter the circumstance whenever I find myself reacting or responding to situations or people in an inappropriate manner, my first thought is, “Do you think God would be pleased?” I’d follow with an answer, “No.” And because I know better, this in turn would prompt me to work to change the behavior and the attitude so that I may bring honor and glory to Him. Life had new meaning and purpose for me.

As I grow older I’ve learned to accept change as a part of life. Take the bitter with the sweet, the good with the bad. I’ve also learned that with change comes opportunity; we either live on purpose or live in fear with no purpose. The latter at some point will make life seem meaningless.

I believe in order to be made whole we must first learn to love God in order to love ourselves. Acknowledgment of God’s love is a key component to our future development.

Our life starts not with what we know or how good we are, but with whom we know; God. Our purpose of life should be to revere Him. It’s where we stand in awe of Him.

God is above, not below us. He controls everything in the earth that concerns us. To reverence Him is to show respect. It’s all in his hands. We are to follow his commands. Recognize, and honor his divine authority. God is all-powerful. He has dominion over everything.

Not only will we have respect for him but will respect others too. Not because of the positions they hold or what they do; but because who they are in Christ to you; your sisters and brothers. Your love of God will be shared with one another.

We are at his disposal. Therefore we must please him in everything we do. We must be able to acknowledge him in all our ways. And follow his laws the rest of our days.

Fear, on the other hand, is our motivation to surrender to God. It is where He resides in our hearts. Evidenced in promises he made and what he’s done. His love never fades. The utmost respect of his authority will be held. Without trust, obedience cannot prevail.

We all have a divine purpose. But it is impossible to fulfill your purpose without God. When you put him first, change will come. Not by what you’ve done but who you will become. Above all, let your life begin with Him. God is your purpose. Build your life around him. Gain knowledge and wisdom as you seek to know Him.

Reverence builds purpose in our relationship with God. It is the sum total of who we are. It helps us grow in maturity. It increases our relationship, our faith, and our belief.

Change is inevitable. We can’t run from it. We must learn to embrace it. Change the way you think, act, and speak. Look for God to guide you in every step you take. He will order your steps to bring you to the place. He set before you to run the race.

Let God begin a work in you. Follow God and he will do the rest for you. Reverence Him in all you do.

Psalm 89:7 God is greatly to be feared in the assembly of the saints, And to be held in reverence by all those around Him.

Psalm 111:10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; A good understanding have all those who do His commandments. His praise endures forever.

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