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Stop Trying to Unlock The Door To Your Past With Keys That Don’t Work. Throw Them Away! And Watch God Throw The Keys To Your Future Right Back At You!

Threw The Keys JoaynnGoing back to what’s familiar from your past can be so easy to do when you feel defeated and your back is against the wall. In spite of the fact your past kept you bound, miserable, and stagnated your growth because you didn’t have to change anything about yourself to make life happen. You loved being comfortable with who you were. Until God closed that door and made you uncomfortable.

When God closes the door to your past, it’s a done deal. It’s gone. When he heals and delivers you from the very things that should have destroyed you, stop trying to bring back the past of no return. Throw away the keys and move on. And thank God later for your future.

No matter how many times you fight against walking in your purpose, delaying your destiny out of fear or frustration and you keep telling God “NO,” his YES will always be “YES and Amen.” He promise.

If you were truly honest with yourself, can you admit much like me, too often you constantly tell God “I don’t want to do the work I’m called to do anymore out of frustration and fear because it seems too hard, but find yourself unable to stop doing what you know you’ve been purposed to do at any given moment because it doesn’t feel right when you don’t.

You’re satisfied with and want to stay where you are and stay hidden in the background because you’re comfortable being complacent. But as God move you to each level, eventually you cannot stay hidden or remain comfortable. Where you’re going will be uncomfortable. You’ll travel alone and lose some people along the way because everybody can’t go with you or do what God assigned specifically for you to complete. You’ll be tried and tested in your faith walk because you’ve been chosen to fulfill God’s, not your, purpose.

God put this in my spirit and revealed this very thing to me today. No matter how many times I want to quit and give up, God just will not let me. Nor will he allow me to stay comfortable. That right there tells me who is in charge, not me, but God. One day, I’ll get this calling and faith walk right and run to my destiny. Pray for me 😊

Ready to quit? Ready to give up? Your situation is more than you can handle? Stop it! Rebuke that spirit! God did not give you a spirit of fear. Don’t give up. Keep it moving!

Be blessed! – JD

2 Corinthians 1:20 “For all the promises of God in Him are Yes, and in Him Amen, to the glory of God through us.” (AMP)

 

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Is God Only Your God Nearby And Not Your God Far Away? Trouble Don’t Last Always. Stop Thinking Of God As A Neighborhood god. He Is Omnipresent. He Is Always In Your Neighborhood

All Things Are Possible JoaynnAs believers we are representatives of God and are responsible only to God. God holds us accountable for our actions. We cannot do this thing called life on our own without him. Recognize your limitations. Admit when you need him.

Oftentimes when situations occur that are out of our control we tend to place God in a box and will question his ability to handle things beyond our control. When things are not going as well as we expect, we run down the streets and around the corners looking for him. Forgetting he’s always in our neighborhood. He is omnipresent. He is everywhere. We may not be able to trace him. Trust him.

To think God does not know or even cares about situations in our lives is to make the mistake of placing limits and restrictions on him. God is omniscient. He is all-knowing. He does not need us to speak, act, or think for him. Is he only a God nearby and not a God far away? (Jeremiah 23:23). How big is the God you worship? Is he bigger than your problems, your circumstances, your situation, your sickness, your friends, your family, or your issues? Who is the leader of your worship?

Don’t mock God. Don’t think of him as a neighborhood god. He is not limited to just local neighborhoods. Take the limits off of him. Be on high alert every day. You may never know when He will come down your street in your neighborhood and pay you a visit. Be ready.

Ask yourself these questions the next time you find yourself facing a hopeless or troubling situation. What corner will you be turning or what side of the street will you be on when God shows up to visit?

Remind yourself who God is. He is omnipotent. He has all power. Put your trust in God. No matter the situation or any manner of sickness or disease or loss, know God is a healer. He will fix it. He is a heart fixer, mind regulator, and an ever-present help. Put everything in his hands. He will handle it.

Be blessed! – JD

Psalm 55:22 “Cast your burden upon the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” (ESV)

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God Is A Just God. He Will Do Just As He Promised. No Matter The Circumstance Have Faith. The Enemy Has Already Been Defeated!

Stay In The Faith JoaynnRain falls on the just and the unjust. None of us are exempt. Sometimes God uses trouble to lead us in the right direction. Trust Him.

God is a just God. We are the righteousness of God. The enemy has already been defeated. Stand firm. Nothing can defeat God’s purpose for us.

There will be difficult times when nothing makes sense to us. It feels like God is distant. It is not for us to understand why things happen as they do but for us to trust God when we are going through.

God hears the prayers of the righteous. He hears every prayer, sees every tear, and knows when our hearts are troubled. He is in the midst. He promises to make it all better.

Life can weigh us down but Jesus tells us not to worry he will give us rest. God knows everything we are going through. Nothing is hidden from him. Cast all your cares upon the Lord and he will give you rest.

Storms will come and rain will flow like a river but it will not last forever. God has not forgotten you. It’s not the end. God is the same today and yesterday and forever. God promises to never leave us or forsake us. You’re not alone. Whatever we go through, he will bring us through it.

God will calm the storm. God will make the enemy pay for bringing the trouble. He will go before you and fight your battles. Push through the trials, tribulations, and pain. Don’t live life defeated. Trust Him.

Don’t let the weight of your troubles crush your spirit where you want to give up. God is faithful. It’s not over until God says it is over. You may fall down. God will raise you up. What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger. Stay in the faith. You’re still standing.

Be blessed! –JD

Matthew 5:43 – 45 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.

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When Jesus Said, “It Is Finished” It Is Done. Didn’t He Complete The Work God Gave Him To Do? Believe Him!

God's Faithfulness JoaynnJesus says, “It is finished.” It is done. There’s no need to wait for something more to happen. No matter how hopeless the situation looks, believe him. Let His will be done. Let Him finish his work. Stop taking matters into your own hands trying to finish what God started.

Jesus came and finished what God sent him to earth to do. He completed the job God gave him to do. He didn’t take matters into his own hands. He followed God’s plan. He didn’t come to abolish the law. He came to fulfill the law.

Too often when we try to figure things out on our own, we want what we want when we want it and will do whatever it takes to get what we want. We become impatient and want immediate results. It’s easy to convince ourselves we can do God’s job better than him. We’re in a hurry. “God is taking too long.” Slow down. Be patient.

God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it? (Numbers 23:19) He keeps his word. Believe him.

Whatever you are meant to have, God will give you the desires of your heart. Wait on God to complete it. When life doesn’t work out like you want it to, trust God’s faithfulness. It ain’t finished until He says it’s finished. It is done. Believe him!

Be blessed! – JD

Isaiah 55:11 “So is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.” (NIV)

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Journey, This One is For You. I May Have Met with Trials; But God. I Thank You For the Journey!

wpid-img_20141019_205038.jpgDear Journey,

Trials didn’t break me. God brought me a mighty long ways. I’ve seen some good days and some bad days. Greater is on the way.

Some things you go through will not feel good. Praise God anyway. It is designed for your good. God is preparing you for a breakthrough.

The joy of the Lord is your strength. You can do all things through Christ Jesus. Praise God. You’re more than a conqueror. It’s your season.

Whatever it is you’ve prayed for, it shall be done. God promised. You will receive it. It’s already done. God does not fail. It shall be done.

Declare God’s goodness no matter the situation. Walk by faith. Be patient. Don’t let what you see in the natural affect your faith walk. Persevere. Don’t give up.

Journey, this one is for you. I may have met with trials; but God. I thank you for the journey!

Be blessed! –JD

2 Corinthians 12:9-109 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (ESV)

 

 

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What Does It Mean To Be A Mother?

My mom asked me the other day, “What does it mean to be a mother?” I didn’t have a word to say. I couldn’t answer.

My response was “Dead silence on the other end of the telephone.” I couldn’t think of an answer because I was in a zone. I was tired and sleepy but after I hung up. I started thinking and here is what I came up with as an afterthought. But before I enlighten you, I must say this to you. The words I share below is what I’m reminded of what I learned from my mother. “What it means to be a mother.”

“Being a mother is “unspeakable” joy. It is a special gift and a blessing from God above. It is being chosen by God. His love is unconditional. It means knowing you are loved. You will fulfill the plan he designed for you. To raise the children he’s gifted to you. His grace and mercy will carry you through. It is God’s favor upon you.

Being a mother means having a humble spirit. Humble yourself and not get weary. For, if you faint not in due season you will reap a reward. It’s all God!

It means to show love and patience to your children. And teach them the goodness about God our Father. It is to prepare them for what’s to come. To teach them God’s Word that will help them overcome. It is to grow in grace. No matter the obstacles you may face. God will give you wisdom and knowledge to fulfill your role.  To be the best mother you can be as you travel the “motherhood” road.

Being a mother is to know when you tell your children this, they are assured of this: God is there for you. No matter what you may go through. Carry these words of wisdom with you. “The road may get rough and the going may get tough. And the hills may be hard to climb. But I’ve decided to make Jesus my choice. No greater love will I ever find.

Carry these words in your heart. And from it, never depart. Bless the Lord at all times. Let his praise continuously be in your mouth. His love is true love. He loves you without a doubt.”

After reflecting on this, I couldn’t help but think of my mother and the life she blessed me with. As I am led to say this:

Being a mother can mean many things. But the one thing that came to mind, where I didn’t think twice, one certain quality that exemplifies my mother…“Sacrifice.”

It is to make the sacrifice to raise our children that will go beyond what we do for ourselves. Knowing they are helpless and cannot care for themselves. In time we will wonder how could we ever depart from this being God sent as a blessing? When we are given an opportunity to learn and teach them godly lessons.

We are kind, loving, generous, and unselfish. We are selfless and full of compassion. Our love is unconditional. No strings attached. We are passionate and affectionate. We nurture. We do our best to be a role model. In order that our children may live lives free of worry and drama.

We love our children more than anything in life. No matter the cost or sacrifice. We will go to the ends of the earth and lay down our life for them. We will do the best we can to protect them. We will not allow anyone to bring harm to them. If someone tries to hurt our child, we will stop the enemy in his tracks. We will go out of our way to let them know we got their back. With God, we will make sure their needs are met. And will be confident he will handle it.

We will put our lives on hold so that we are available, no matter the reason. We will embrace the precious life God has given us, no matter the time or season. The love we have for our children will be etched in our hearts. They are one part; of two human beings. They will bring new life and new meaning. We can’t imagine life without them.

Being a mother means we will wear many hats. That will serve a different purpose in many aspects. We will guard our children’s feelings and teach them to be wise. We will guide their footsteps in every decision that may be unwise. We will instill the love of God in their hearts. That they may grow up and never depart. From his Word or what they have been taught.

Yes, we may have imperfections and have made some mistakes. We have and will fail you on occasion. But we want to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes. As we try our best to guide and lead you. So you may avoid what we’ve been through. We may set standards that may provoke you from time to time. With bitterness and anger, even rebellion when you fall out of line. But we do this only because we want what’s best for you. We love you.

It is our responsibility to help shape and mold you into honorable human beings God designed you to be. That you may grow up to have good character, sound moral judgment, respect, and dignity. And you may have strong values and integrity.

What does it mean to be a mother? Simply put. It is love, wisdom, and the sacrifice of our life, that our children may have a better life. God placed us in your life that we may be a blessing to lead and guide you. To the life God has designed for you. That will lead to your destiny. Thank God for the blessing.

Mothers are special. They are a treasured memory. Honor, respect, and cherish the memories. No matter what you’ve been through. God sent them as angels to guide and keep watch over you. Don’t wait for Mother’s Day to honor your mother. Let everyday be a day you tell them that you love them. Mothers are one of God’s greatest gifts. Love them with all your heart. Handle your Mother with tender loving care. Keep her close and near to your heart.

Be blessed! -JD

Proverbs 31:26 “When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.”

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When Life Is Not A Bed Of Roses

Today has been a peculiar day. My thoughts are all over the place. As I think of those who are struggling with the perils of life and may feel out of place.

The words I’ve chosen to share with you are a bit out of character for me. But I couldn’t help to share with you what I am thinking. I believe the things I speak of are someone’s reality. And an unreality for those who choose not to see but accept life as, “What will be, will be.”

When life changes in an instant and we have no control of it, it can be overwhelming and unclear. The very place we may find ourselves sometimes can be frightening and cause fear. Especially when we are not accustomed to the manner we are required to live. We start to lose sight of the purpose intended and question the reason why we may be there. We start looking at our circumstances that will cause our minds to wander in despair.

We begin to struggle mentally to maintain. We become overwhelmed and our thoughts begin to reflect pain. Pain we begin to feel in our hearts and head that may cause us to feel worthless and ashamed.

We begin to feel insecure and feel like we are victims when criticized. For everything, in the eyes of those who criticize and feel we are not doing anything right. We feel as though we are a burden and feel helpless. Even though, we would if we could, change the situation or correct it.

There are ones who may become depressed and begin to feel anxiety. And begin to say things like, “Why didn’t my life turn out the way it was supposed to be? I hate my life. Why am I here? What happened? Why can’t I maintain? Given the life I have lived, I shouldn’t be where I am. Why am I in such pain?”

Self-pity sets in and they begin to ask, “Why can’t anyone understand why I feel as I do? Why do they think they’re perfect but find fault in everything I do?” Or fail to understand there may be something they lack to make me feel accepted. When crushed on every side. It is perplexing.

If only they would take the time to look at the situation at hand. And try to have some empathy or simply understand. The adjustment that person had to make. And avoid making it a one-sided adjustment which may cause someone to mentally break.

Regardless who we are, change will come. It will require compromise. It will impact all parties involved and can be hard. There are sacrifices to be made on everyone’s part. But each person must be willing to make the sacrifice as they go through. And evaluate how they may positively contribute to the environment one will exist, because humility will be required from each of you

Not everyone is perfect, nor is life. At some point and time we all will experience change in our life. When this happens, we must not ignore the feelings of others. We may find ourselves in the same predicament and would expect the same from others.

We don’t know what people are going through. And to live with someone that lacks empathy can be challenging. Especially when one doesn’t like the predicament they now find themselves in.

What we think we become, and what we become we will live. We must not let the mind play tricks and cause us to believe we are worthless or have no reason to live. There is a reason and a purpose God still has us here. There is a reason for everything. Live. But don’t be overcome with anxiety or fear.

We must remember things happen in life at no fault of our own. But God will never forsake us or leave us alone. Everything happens for a reason. Seasons are temporary. They don’t last forever. Make the best of life until things get better.

We must learn to trust God in the midst of our storm. And have faith we will be delivered. No matter the storms, don’t cry yourself a river.

Don’t lose hope. God will not give you more than you can bear. He will supply all your needs even when it doesn’t look like it or you think life is not fair. We live in a fallen world and some things are to be expected. We have to be prepared for the unexpected.

Trust God in the midst of bad circumstances. Remember God is a god of second chances. Stay on course. Have faith. Trust God for everything. His love will overshadow clouds and peace he will bring.

When life is not a bed of roses, don’t overestimate it. Rather focus on what you make of it. To make a difference in the life you live and not what you think of it. Accept life for what it is and think on these things. No matter the hardships life may bring. When faced with uncertainty or change, believe it is for the best. Do the best you can with what you’ve got. Let God handle the rest.

Positive thinking is the key. The right mindset will help you face your fears. Don’t spend a lifetime wondering why or trying to figure life out, only to waste unnecessary years.

Let God be your guide in everything you do. Keep the faith. Remember, God will see you through. God is always with you.

Be blessed! -JD

James 1:12 “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test , that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.”

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What If It Were a Matter of Life and Imminent Death?

I am not much of a talker but when I converse with others, I find that one of the hardest subjects to talk about with family and friends is death, even though we all know it is inevitable. There are many who are not willing or able to discuss it. But it is something we all must come to terms with.

After watching The Mary Tyler Moore Reunion show on  Katie Couric’s  show, Katie, and hearing of Valerie Harper’s current fight with terminal brain cancer, I couldn’t help but think about what would be the ultimate response to our having to deal with death after being told we had a short time to live.

I was and still am a big fan of The Mary Tyler Moore show and while watching them share memories and seeing my favorites Mary Tyler Moore, Valerie Harper, Betty White, Cloris Leachman, and Georgia Engel all together, it put a ton of smiles on my face. I did pretty well with my emotions until Katie started asking Valerie questions in regards to how she was coping since being diagnosed and receiving the news.

As she began to speak and celebrate family and friends and express her appreciation of support from the nation, tears began to flow from my eyes like a river in celebration. She was smiling and had this to say, “Don’t go to the funeral until the day of the funeral. Don’t miss your life while you’re feeling good and can do things… Let it be there and go through it, then move on from it.”

I thought, “Wow.” She is courageous, positive, vibrant, loving, carefree, and upbeat. A wise soul I could clearly see, who felt as though there was not a worry in the world. She’s handling it quite well. I lay in bed and clapped to commend her. I loved her attitude. It was priceless. Her strength was unbelievable.

I began asking myself and ask you too, with death being inevitable, what would you do? If you were told today you had only a few months or a short time to live? What would be your response to the devastating news?

What if you had to write your own eulogy for your funeral? What could you possibly say that would make a difference? To someone who may not know how to cope as well as you? Or may be able to cope the same way Valerie’s has, given what she’s been through? What would you have to say about yourself and the life you lived? How would you handle knowing the estimated time your own death was imminent?

I know it’s a lot I’m asking of you because it is a lot I am asking of myself too. But I really would like you to take a moment and think this through. Not for me, but for yourself in the hopes it may prepare you.

As for me, this is what I would simply say, “I lived life vicariously.” Through my relationship with God and held on to my trust and faith. Yes, there were times when I didn’t understand why my life turned out the way it did. I am truly grateful to God it did. Grateful for his saving me from a life that could have been worse, had I continued to feel sorry for myself and lived in misery. I’m thankful. I don’t have any regrets.

I would want to be remembered not for what I’ve done but for what God allowed me to overcome. With the hopes that my life was a reflection of inspiration and encouragement, to know that a life well deserved was a life well spent.

Don’t ponder on things you can’t change. Instead live and rejoice because of things that didn’t remain the same. In the face of death, take Valerie’s advice. Don’t give up on life. Only to make matters worse because you’ve been told you will leave before you expected. Remember, death is to be expected. And we must be prepared for when the day comes. Live your life to the fullest and thank God for the time you have been given until it does.

What if it were a matter of life and imminent death?

I say, “Don’t fret.” Don’t hurry what will happen and live with sadness, bitterness, and regret. Take each moment as it comes and be thankful for it. We all are one breath away from leaving this earth. Embrace God’s gift and make it all worth it. Thank God for healing. Thank him for strength and courage to make it through. Thank him the time he has given you.

Until that time comes, continue to build a relationship with God. Stay committed to reading God’s Word and applying it daily that you may live life abundantly and overcome. Meditate. Be patient while you wait. So that when your time comes, no time will have been wasted.

Be blessed! –JD

2 Corinthians 5:1 “For we know that when this earthly tent we live in is taken down (that is, when we die and leave this earthly body), we will have a house in heaven, an eternal body made for us by God himself and not by human hands.”

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Take a Look Around and Tell Me What Do You See?

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English: A homeless person’s shelter under a fallen Willow tree along in New South Wales, Australia. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Take a look around and tell me what do you see? Do you know what life can be like for someone living in agony? But still thank God for the life they live? And they are appreciative? They are still able to maintain not because of what they see. But because even during their affliction, they still may bring God glory.

Stop and take a moment and observe the place in life you’re in right now. Ask yourself, if anything, what am I thankful for anyhow? Do you see anything that may be amiss? Or do you feel uncomfortable, sad, or is it heavenly bliss?

When I look around where I find myself now. I see people in a hurry, really going nowhere. I see homeless people that have nowhere to go because the home they once lived in is no longer there. I see people sick and in pain, lonely, have lost loved ones. I see people hurting because life to them is no longer fun. I see those that are lost, in search of answers, and can’t find their way. I see people struggling day to day. Just to make it through the day.

There’s someone having a hard time living with a sickness or a condition where they cannot care for themselves, let alone live with someone else. Or have to live in a place where someone has to care for them. And basically have no control of their life but still they win because they are still living.

Take a look around and tell me what do you see? Do you see a life that may not be what you want it to be? And find yourself in a precarious predicament. Only to feel you are spent. Since nothing’s going right according to you. But to God it is right where he needs you.

Be thankful. Don’t take life for granted. Even if you are living a life you are not accustomed to, don’t let it take hold of you. Even if you don’t agree with what’s being required of you. Don’t complain about it. Or even be mad about it. Instead, praise God. Be glad about it. Because life happens and we don’t have any control over it. And although we can take charge of it, remember God is in total control of it.

We may complain about things we don’t have or because life is not going our way. But remember, in the life of someone else it could be worse than we could ever feel on any given day. There is someone, somewhere, who right now is in the fight for their life. They are not living in paradise. As they struggle to stay alive.

Needless to say, once we die. We are taken away from this earth permanently. We won’t ever again have an opportunity, to live life abundantly. One God gave us for free. We won’t ever wake again. To make the best of a life we once took for granted.

Thank God wherever you are in the face of adversity. Take it all in stride with humility. Humble yourself. Know it is part of God’s plan. Everything we encounter has a purpose and is better than. What we can imagine. Don’t despair. It is a privilege to be there, where you are. Be thankful to God that he brought you to it. Make the best of it.

Take a look around and tell me what do you see? Even though life may not be what you want it to be. Remember there are so many people that are much worse off than you or me. Count it all joy!

Be blessed! -JD

James 1:2-4 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

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Why Do We Change?

It amazes me how God will send confirmation of thoughts that dwell in your heart. As he sends the most unsuspecting people, in unsuspecting places, in the most unusual circumstances to affirm what it is you desire to say.

I am a firm believer that within every circumstance, God presents an opportunity for us to make a difference. It is not by chance or coincidence. It is by his Divine Providence.

Today it was raining out but there was something I needed to do in order to meet a deadline that would affect my future forever. As I walked to the copy and print store to make a copy and mail a letter that held my future destiny, I met an unusual woman. Our conversation started off about the rain and she said where she comes from, rain was a common occurrence. I said, “Me too.” But she welcomed it today. I said, “Me too.”

I dared not ask where she was from but as soon as the words left her lips I had a small inkling she was from the same parts I was. And just as it turned out, she was.

Although we had had enough of the rain where we hailed from, it was good to see it falling today. She thanked God. And I did too. Ironic, I thought, “This woman seems to know the same God I do.” Just by her mannerism and disposition shown by those small words she chose to use. Here’s a woman who is in a great position. Just by the words she mentioned. “Thank God.”

I immediately felt comfortable with her as we talked about how people choose to conform for others as a means to fit in. They think its okay to live by standards of society rather than choose to live by God’s standards.

The conversation led to the subject of people who hold the belief that it is okay to change for a man, a woman, or even in a relationship to better themselves for the sake of others. While I didn’t see a problem with this, I couldn’t help but say, these thoughts I am compelled to express in this way. And this is what I had to say:

So often I hear people say, “As many relationships we find ourselves in, even though others turned out bad, there will be one where someone will meet a person who will cause them to change.” For the better, which will bring success in the relationship they believe was destined to be. But do you really think that’s all we should believe?

People get confused when they see others in relationships and it appears all is well that ended well. But don’t get it twisted. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors and while change is good. You don’t know if their life really is that good. Or because of who they think is just that good.

Now don’t get me wrong, change is a beautiful thing. Especially when it brings growth absolving things that weren’t beautiful about you. But it is important to consider the reasons why you change you.

Do you ever stop to think when a person changes, who or what is it they decide to change for? Is it for them or is it for God? If it’s for them, it will seem as though they are in better place. Based on what is seen on the surface. But as the woman said it often will mean it’s only temporary. And I agree because if you’re only changing for yourself or that person, you’re not free. But if change is preceded by your desire to grow in God, and then change for the good, then you would… be free. You will experience the effects of change permanently.

God will show himself strong on your behalf. Not by what people will do because of you or what you do because of them. But because of what he will do for you in spite of them. He will strengthen your resolve, if your heart is fully committed to God. “For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.” 2 Chronicles 16:9

We can’t change people. We can’t expect people to change for us. But with prayer, God’s Will will change for us. When we make the decision to change, it must involve God as the priority. And you will know this as things fall into place for the betterment of your well-being.

Not based on what you are seeing within that relationship with that person. But in reflection of what you will see within you in comparison. To who you were before and who you are now when God change you. You will see a better you. The relationship you’re in will benefit too. However, the relationship must begin with God to begin anew.

I commend those who evolve and change for the better. I wish nothing but success in the lives of others. But I believe and will always say, in order to be different, you have to be open to doing things differently. In order to grow, you have to be willing to change a part of you so it is God you will see. In every circumstance or situation you face. Even in the people whose lives you are placed.

As for me, I may not be the person I’m supposed to be, but thank God I’m not the person I used to be. I’m free. Whatever relationship I may find myself in, God will be first as I seek to change.

I will sing praise every day. With these words I made up Wednesday, “You don’t know my story. You can see my glory. God has favored me. I can tell by all that I’ve been through, I’m free. Free from pain, worry, heartbreak, and misery. Thank you Lord, I’m free. No more chains are binding me. My mind, my soul, and my body are free. I am. I will. I stand. I believe.”

And you can be free too. Just let God, and not people, be the reason why you change you.

Be blessed! -JD

Romans 12:2 “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

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Please Excuse Me For Being A Parent

I apologize for the unintentional, possibly overbearing thoughts I share on the subject of mothers and children. But out of my compassion and concern for parents like myself, I can’t help but speak on the issue I find myself constantly encountering when I speak to other parents as well as what I see within the environment I exist. Please excuse me for being a parent.

It saddens me and shatters my heart to pieces when I hear about the treatment mothers experience from their children. Mothers, regardless of what they’ve done or didn’t do or who they are, they don’t deserve to be neglected, unaccepted, or disrespected. Please excuse me for being a parent.

I hear too many stories about how children choose to ignore, criticize and even disassociate themselves from their parents out of their stubbornness and foolish pride. Oftentimes I see children of today’s generation who lack respect, honor, and value for their parents. There is a great disregard for the role a mother plays in their lives as shown by the way they manipulate, humiliate, abuse, and take them for granted.

God used mothers as angels in the giving of life. We are to nurture, guide and protect our children. No matter what we may be faced with, and I know from experience we have our own struggles, we do our best to console the emotional state of mind our children will experience and not control the decisions they will make. It is never our intention to hurt or harm. So please excuse us for our prayers to keep you safe in God’s arms.

When children see us they think we are invincible. Yet they don’t realize our lives aren’t simple either. We carry heavy burdens when we observe our children’s lives not going the way we would hope. We ache inside our hearts when disappointment or a travesty occurs. Please excuse the attention we give that you feel you may not deserve.

We become consumed with a desire to help even if it’s only to share an encouraging word, constructive criticism or a thought that may bring healing. We try our best to do this in love. Sometimes we fail miserably but it’s never intentional. We make mistakes. We are human too. Please excuse us for caring about you.

We hurt, we heal. We get torn down but we stand the test of time. We go through a lot but we are survivors. As Christians, we are more than conquerors as the Bible tells us, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us” Romans 8:37. And it is because of him we live.

This in turn led me to think when someone asked me, “If you could turn back the hands of time would you do things differently?” I answered “Yes, there are some things I would change.” Then they said, “But how would you know you were doing it differently if you didn’t know what it was you were doing?” Me: “You’re absolutely correct” because life isn’t that simple.

We wouldn’t be able to do things differently if we relived our life because we wouldn’t know what to expect since we haven’t lived it yet. We still would be inexperienced with not a clue as to what life would entail. We would have to live and then learn from our experiences. And with the help of God, we will make it to the point we, as mothers, are now. Please excuse our diligence in seeking God because you may not know how.

Much like our children who are in the same place we once found ourselves. The only difference is we have lived the life they are now going through which in essence is a blessing. And they don’t even know it. Please excuse us for trying to be a blessing.

We are born, we live, and then we die. We learn to relinquish foolish pride as we go through life. As we learn to live. Then we learn to share what we’ve learned with our children who will now live the life we once lived. Excuse our innate nature to only want what’s best for you. Please excuse the unconditional love we have for you.

I hope that this will be my final thoughts on the subject but I know with life and children ever evolving, it probably won’t. But I hope that one day when children talk or react to their mothers, they are careful in what they do or say, because we are not promised the next hour or the next day. Please excuse our tenacity as God makes a way. As he listens to our prayers and you are given another chance that day.

We all are here on borrowed time. Learn to treat your parents with love. Learn to be kind. Thank God, for letting your mother stay. That they may guide you on the way, to wherever it is you may be going. As each day God gives you breath to see a new dawning.

Mothers are a treasured memory. Honor them today and every day. Remember if it weren’t for them you would not be a part of that memory if God hadn’t let you stay.

Please excuse us for being parents with a heart filled with love. Please excuse the manner in which we love… you. We are here to guide you. Don’t ever take for granted our kindness for weakness when we do… the very best we can to make life easier for you.

Be blessed! –JD

2 Corinthians 10:12-14 “For we are not bold to class or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves; but when they measure themselves by themselves, and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding. 13 But we will not boast beyond our measure, but within the measure of the sphere which God apportioned to us as a measure, to reach even as far as you. 14 For we are not overextending ourselves, as if we did not reach to you, for we were the first to come even as far as you in the gospel of Christ; 15 not boasting beyond our measure, that is, in other men’s labors, but with the hope that as your faith grows, we shall be, within our sphere, enlarged even more by you,

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What About The Children?

I heard someone say, “When children are young, they love us. When they become adults, they judge us.”

As parents, we make mistakes but we should not be held responsible for them the rest of our lives. I believe, no matter what, this is what children must adhere to.

Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

“This is the first commandment with a promised attached. To honor your parents is to speak well of them and politely to them. To act in a way that shows them courtesy and respect (but not to obey them if this means disobedience to God). Follow their teachings and example of putting God first. Parents have a special place in God’s sight. Even those who find it difficult to get along with their parents are still commanded to honor them” (LASB – notes Exodus 20:12).

And this is what we must remind ourselves of every day even when they grow old, become adults and move away; because one day we will be grandparents to, our children’s children we are to guide too.

Children are blessings.
They are precious gifts sent from God above.
Cherish their presence.
They are for us to nurture and love.

Remember it is up to you.
Make your child’s life worth living.
Lead by example in the things you do.

Lead them in the right path.
Influence them in the right ways.
And they will remember it all their days.

Teach your child to follow God’s commands and laws.
We must not withhold it but discipline them in love.

Even though it may seem unpleasant
Let the punishment fit the crime in their defense.
Administer it to commensurate with the offense.

They may stray from the Word as they get older.
But your guidance at some point will carry them over.
They will have no choice but to come back to it.
The very thing of God you imparted them with.

No matter how young or old, direct them to God.
Teach them about God and his truth.
Teach them how to obey and follow his rules.

God instructs us how to discipline.
The Bible says it is what we are required to do.
We are to impart God’s wisdom and truth.

We have a responsibility to one another to approach in love.
Children are to respect and love their parents in spite of.
They are to honor in spite of unfairness.
We are to care and love them in spite of disobedience.

Remember, children are God’s reward.
They are precious gifts sent from God above.
Savor every moment that you can.
Cherish and embrace them.
Put their lives in God’s hands.

My 6 year old grandson said “We all have guardian angels. They take care of us and they actually watch whatever we do. And they go to their guardian place to protect us because they are right behind us regardless whether we are good or bad. They are our guardian angels.” He is a wise young man. In the words of a proud grandmother, I say “Amen.”

Children are wise beings and are very sensitive to their surroundings. They can sense when something is amiss. They are sensitive to negative bias. And can be influenced by it. Foster an environment that influences positive, not negative, behavior. It can lay the foundation for positive or negative development in a child sooner or later.

Make it “About the Children.”

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”

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