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Dear Absent Father from The Mother of A Daddyless Daughter….I Just Want To Say “Thank You And You’re Welcome!”

Dear Absent Father,

To My Daughter JoaynnI penned this letter to you, with my deepest regards, to surprisingly thank you for selfishly choosing to be an absent father.

When I look at my daughter every day and delight in how much she’s grown, I can’t help but thank God for the life she has successfully achieved being raised by a single parent. I made one of the best decisions ever. To nurture, guide, be there for her, and always love her.

As I think of the very moment I laid eyes on this precious human being, fell in love with her, saw so many parts of you in her reflection, there’s no denying she’s yours, I couldn’t imagine how great her life would be impacted when you chose not to be a part of, or truly acknowledged her existence. Thank you for leaving an innocent child that didn’t ask to come here, emancipating yourself from her life before and after she was born, to take care of your other children and freely live your life as a single man.

I prayed I could raise her to be an honorable, responsible, respectable, strong-willed, independent adult. Thanks to you I did, in spite of some tough challenges I faced without your help. And most of all, you don’t know what you did for me. Each and every challenge brought out the best in me. I found strength I didn’t realize I had enough of, to raise my daughter all by myself. Cheers to you! I’m grateful.

Thank you for contributing to what could have been a disaster to your “no father figure daddyless” daughter’s struggles with feelings of low self-esteem, self-worth, identity, and value. Good news! Thank God! It didn’t break her nor will it ultimately affect her life-long relationship choice in her future husband. Long talks, loving family support will continue to help her with that. She’s beautiful, confident, strong, and intelligent.

For times she would have looked up to and admired you for being a great father who set the example of what to look for in a man but had abandonment, trust, and betrayal issues, thank you for helping her learn what it took to persevere. She’s wiser, better. She chose not to look for love, acceptance, or validation in all the wrong places or searched for the identity the world thinks she lost, because of her absent father. Thank you. She’s an amazingly strong woman.

She decided on her own what not to look for in another man what she never saw in you, because of the example you didn’t set. She chose not to settle. She never ran into the arms of a man in search of a lack of affection to fill an empty void in her heart, because of one of the most precious gifts you decided not to give her; unconditional love. No worries. I took care of that for you.

Thank you for the times you didn’t call, write, or be there for her on special occasions or remembered her birthday, that could have burned a hole through her heart. You cannot even imagine how it may have negatively defined who she would become. No worries. I helped you out with that too, stepped in on your behalf, made up for your absence, and set the right example as best as I could as a mother. I am, and you too would be proud of her. No need to thank me for it. It’s on me. You can have this proud moment for free.

Hats off to you for the small, sporadic monthly child support checks each year you thought was enough to raise a child that could never cover the costs for food, shelter, medical expenses, or pay for one outfit or a pair of shoes each year she grew out of, but managed to walk a mile in to reach the place she is now.

Words cannot express how grateful we are to you for contributing to a debt that can never be repaid for anything I’ve done, because my unconditional love was free, and it didn’t cost a thing. Nor do you owe me or this precious being back pay for the gift of life, so don’t ever feel guilty. The glory belongs to God. We have God to thank for the free gift of life he gave her!

Thank you absent father, for making me one of the richest persons in the world for a debt you could never repay. Nurture, guidance, advice, forgiveness, structure, discipline, value, self-worth were all free.

And let me leave one last tip for you before I go, to show my gratitude of how much I appreciate you for not being that “involved, loving, caring father.” Pat yourself on the back for your biological contribution, but don’t wait until she become successful and accomplish all she dream or hope for, and try to claim your “undeserved” back pay for something you chose all your life to not be a part of. Just send a thoughtful card wishing her the best and tell her, “Thank You.” You’re welcome!

With love,

Signed ME, a proud single parent

-JD

Ruth 3:10 ‘And he said, “May you be blessed by the Lord, my daughter. You have made this last kindness greater than the first in that you have not gone after young men, whether poor or rich.” (ESV)

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Haters, You Don’t Know How Much You Blessed Me – I Just Want to Say Thank You!

wpid-img_20141019_205953.jpgDear Haters,

Thank you for taking time to gossip and talk bad about me. You don’t know how much it blessed me. I’m not bitter. I’m stronger, wiser, better. Thank you Jesus!

Be blessed! -JD

Luke 6:28 Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. (KJV)

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You Were Setup. You Came Back. This One’s for You!

wpid-textgram_1387342570.png“A setback is a setup for your comeback.”

Sit back. Watch the look on faces of those who tried to set you up when they see that you’ve come back!

And say to yourself, “God did that!”

Be blessed! -JD

Proverbs 24:16 “for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes.” (NIV)

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God Blesses Me. I Can’t Help But Bless Others Too. Readers, Thank you!

Proverbs 18:4 “Wise words are like deep waters; wisdom flows from the wise like a bubbling brook.” (NLT)

Proverbs 18In the heart of the believer, speech from the wise is like a stream that overflows with blessings. From one who continuously supplies words of spiritual wisdom and knowledge, communicating and ministering grace to those who will hear. They are a blessing.

Every day as I sit and reflect on how good God has been to me. There is never a time I forget to give God thanks no matter what may be troubling me. First thing I do before my feet hit the ground is give praise, honor, glory, and thanks to Him. I don’t do anything on a whim. Although there are times when I find it difficult to get out of bed, there is never a time I fail to give thanks even while lying in bed. Every moment of the day I give God praise. No matter what I go through, I praise His Holy Name.

Many times, my writings are inspired by God. I can’t help when most of the time I have something to say, it is about God. Sometimes after reading the great writings of others I have a desire to write about something different like them, other than what you see. But I realize I am not them. I am gifted differently.

When I set my mind and release my thoughts to voice recordings in preparation to create a post, I’m always reminded of this the most, “A gift opens the way for the giver and ushers him into the presence of the great” (Proverbs 18:16). My gifts will make room for me. I don’t rush what it is I need to do before God tells me. Nor do I desire to be like anyone else. I use my gifts wisely.

There are times, for days or weeks, I may not have a thing to say. However, I don’t rush a thing. I stay humble and meek and wait patiently. I wait on God to lead me. I take the opportunity to share my thoughts on that given day, with all the strength he gives me.

Oftentimes people ask me, “Where do you get the stuff you write? Does it come from a book or somebody else thoughts?” I tell them, “No it comes from my own thoughts.” Many times I can read a sermon I’ve scribbled from any given Sunday and use that as my guide. To put together what I desire to say after collecting my thoughts.

My thoughts in my writings come from various places, and wherever I may find inspiration. But the things I have to say are derived first and foremost before, during, and after daily meditation. My cousin calls it impartation (smile), I call it anointed. I can see one word from a blog post or a comment on social media and I turn it into a message. I can take knowledge or an event from a mess of my life and turn it into a message.

I often get a number of compliments on things I share. People say they look forward to reading what I have to say. Even when there are times I miss a day. And while there are times when I feel, how can I inspire others when I cannot inspire me? My readers, family, and friends are the ones who inspire me. While I am honored, I never take credit. God gets all the credit. It’s all God. He gives me the strength and power to share his love. If only one person is blessed by my message, I am grateful to God for allowing me to be a blessing.

While I don’t have a spiritual mentor or a godly counselor right now, I have all I need guiding my spiritual growth. The Word of God, daily reading, mediation, and teachings from my Pastor at church guides my spiritual growth. I work every day to share wisdom, inspiration, encouragement, and motivate others. I look to God for godly wisdom. And when the inspiration hits me, I write a simple or long thought about the goodness of God as he leads me.

So when you visit, whenever I may have something to say that day, God is the reason for many of the things I have to say. And although the majority of what you see is about God.  It’s because I cannot help but to always give glory to and honor God.

God is so good to me. God sends people like you to bless me. When you read thoughts I’ve created, it’s my way of sharing with the world God’s wisdom and just how good He has been to me. Your visits mean the world to me. I’m thankful for every opportunity to share with you the gift I’ve been given. Thank you for being a blessing!

God Blesses Me. I Can’t Help But Bless Others Too. Readers, Thank you!

Be blessed! –JD

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